barefoot
Diamond Member
For several reasons, I find my family (who I don't live with) very stressful to be around. The last time I saw them, I was pretty dysregulated for a couple of weeks afterwards.
Since then, I've been talking about my family and triggers in therapy.
At the end of my last session, I asked my T whether she thinks it's possible that there'll ever be a time when I'll stop feeling/reacting this way to my family.
She asked if we could reframe the question so that the question becomes not, can I stop it happening but rather, how can I manage it/them better.
It got me thinking...when it comes to triggers, are we working towards the trigger not being a trigger anymore (it no longer has that power and we are no longer bothered by it)? Or will the trigger always be a trigger and we are working towards finding ways to manage the trigger/our response better?
Any thoughts? Or tips?
Since then, I've been talking about my family and triggers in therapy.
At the end of my last session, I asked my T whether she thinks it's possible that there'll ever be a time when I'll stop feeling/reacting this way to my family.
She asked if we could reframe the question so that the question becomes not, can I stop it happening but rather, how can I manage it/them better.
It got me thinking...when it comes to triggers, are we working towards the trigger not being a trigger anymore (it no longer has that power and we are no longer bothered by it)? Or will the trigger always be a trigger and we are working towards finding ways to manage the trigger/our response better?
Any thoughts? Or tips?