I wanted to post a thank you to everyone on here. I have been married to a survivor of the Khmer Rouge for five years and (probably amazingly stupidly) only just realized he has chronic PTSD after seeking help myself. Suddenly all the flipping out at nothing, and the fear of intimacy and the mood swings (not to mention, occasionally, violence) make sense, but I still carry a lot of guilt that I didn't see it earlier and react to "better" (maybe I made it worse? maybe I could have helped? maybe, maybe...), and as others have said, just because you know the cause of the behavior doesn't make it easier to bear. Unfortunately, in Khmer culture, seeking psychological help carries a huge stigma, so on top of his denial that there is a problem, there is that stigma and therefore little chance he will ever accept help as far as I can see, which makes me very sad because I love him very much and I hate seeing him so unhappy. Our relationship reached breaking point a few months ago after I miscarried our twins and he got drunk instead of coming to the hospital with me because he couldn't cope and then flew into rages at me alternating with fits of depression over the next few months which seemed to have little bearing on my welfare. He just doesn't have any emotion left over for me except negative emotion. All his energy is all turned inside. Anyway, I just want to say I am very grateful to find somewhere where I can read some options, where I can read similar experiences and where I don't just get a blank look and a "why don't you just leave him?" because although it may eventually come to that, but it isn't that simple and black and white when you are living with PTSD and, whatever people outside see, for me there is so much about him that is wonderful and I can't walk away just yet. Now I am getting help I hope I can cope better and know what that final boundary is and if we reach it. Thanks.