Rose White
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Hi, This post could probably be filed under the topics of MMJ, Addiction, and Parenting. I’m struggling to gain a foothold on this issue, so please bear with me as I try to work it out.
I use MMJ. I have a card with a dx of ptsd. I have been using daily for over 12 years, since I was pregnant with my younger son.
In that time I have had a daughter, started working at a school, earned my teaching certificate, recovered memories of preverbal trauma, cut off my primary abuser, left a narc eX, and moved into my own home for the first time in my life and support myself financially.
Hey, maybe I’m doing pretty good.
Fallout... marrying and having kids with a former drug addict high school dropout who became a smooth talking narcissist turns out to have some consequences.
Our oldest is 15 and has been smoking weed for over three years, by his own admission. He also does acid and any hallucinogen he can get his hands on, by his own admission. He says what he does is no worse than what I do and just because he’s growing doesn’t mean it will hurt him.
We started going to an IOP. We went to one session. He says he will never go again and that group therapy only works if the person wants to be there.
I have sought out group therapy for myself: Codependents Anonymous and Parents of Addicted Love Ones. Going to my first meeting of each this week.
Am I addicted to marijuana and have no place telling my son to stop?
Am I an adult, who is managed by my doctor and my therapist, who responsibly checks in with people who look out for my best interests?
Am I an adult who has every right to believe that it is wrong for my son to smoke weed but helpful for me to use it?
I’m having a hard time putting these pieces together.
I don’t allow my sons to drink beer and I would be concerned if they were, even though I drink 1-2 beers per day.
I don’t know how I can help my son. It might be a coparenting issue too. His dad is in denial that there is an issue, so that is sending our son the message that it’s okay.
My ex says if I stopped using then our sons (the younger son uses too) wouldn’t use. And my sons tell me it’s wrong for me to use. Like they are my parent.
I’m working on maintaining boundaries and expectations with my sons, hence the need for CoDA and PAL.
It’s a lot I’m trying to process! If you are a parent who uses MMJ and you would also be alarmed and think it’s a big problem if your child was using (not to mention the psychedelics!) please share some support or encouragement.
I use MMJ. I have a card with a dx of ptsd. I have been using daily for over 12 years, since I was pregnant with my younger son.
In that time I have had a daughter, started working at a school, earned my teaching certificate, recovered memories of preverbal trauma, cut off my primary abuser, left a narc eX, and moved into my own home for the first time in my life and support myself financially.
Hey, maybe I’m doing pretty good.
Fallout... marrying and having kids with a former drug addict high school dropout who became a smooth talking narcissist turns out to have some consequences.
Our oldest is 15 and has been smoking weed for over three years, by his own admission. He also does acid and any hallucinogen he can get his hands on, by his own admission. He says what he does is no worse than what I do and just because he’s growing doesn’t mean it will hurt him.
We started going to an IOP. We went to one session. He says he will never go again and that group therapy only works if the person wants to be there.
I have sought out group therapy for myself: Codependents Anonymous and Parents of Addicted Love Ones. Going to my first meeting of each this week.
Am I addicted to marijuana and have no place telling my son to stop?
Am I an adult, who is managed by my doctor and my therapist, who responsibly checks in with people who look out for my best interests?
Am I an adult who has every right to believe that it is wrong for my son to smoke weed but helpful for me to use it?
I’m having a hard time putting these pieces together.
I don’t allow my sons to drink beer and I would be concerned if they were, even though I drink 1-2 beers per day.
I don’t know how I can help my son. It might be a coparenting issue too. His dad is in denial that there is an issue, so that is sending our son the message that it’s okay.
My ex says if I stopped using then our sons (the younger son uses too) wouldn’t use. And my sons tell me it’s wrong for me to use. Like they are my parent.
I’m working on maintaining boundaries and expectations with my sons, hence the need for CoDA and PAL.
It’s a lot I’m trying to process! If you are a parent who uses MMJ and you would also be alarmed and think it’s a big problem if your child was using (not to mention the psychedelics!) please share some support or encouragement.