You bein' funny? cause I'll laugh if you are. If you arn't... respect. (But I might still laugh )Lord ... God be with you too! And it that isn't helpful -
You KNOW its helpful!don't hesitate to reach out if you need to bounce stuff around.
Know what the right answer is? Nothing. There is no right answer.
The thing with gaslighting is... to the majority of the sane world - you look totally insane to get your freak on about somebody doing something nice for you.
I've been asking God for help but (s)he seems to not understand the fundamental issues here. He just keeps telling me to be patient. 30 years later..... ya know? I've learned a lot in that time. Keep away from those types and when I find a kindred spirit, hang on tight! ;-)You bein' funny? cause I'll laugh if you are. If you arn't... respect. (But I might still laugh
I'm working right now, but this is tempting. I like your style of throwing in humour. And rhymes. And shock when others refer themselves as resources when God isn't available or seems unqualified. I won't even ask for credit. Happy to give it all to you as your talent surpasses mine a hundred fold.(Give me a rhyme in there Shim and I'll give ya co-writer credit.
Although it may not help your thought process - everything is art...And what you said about acting stupid, I need to think on. I think that explains one of my defense mechanisms.
Away on business.He just keeps telling me to be patient. 30 years later..... ya know?
Is this exact situation in the handbook or were you there the day he screamed at me in a drunken rage for not giving him the keys to my Jeep Sahara?unless you give him the keys to your new BMW which he just asked for.
Sorry for your situation - (Do you have to interact w him every day?!)This whole thread is so comforting to read. My narcissist is a work person. I thought I was finally rid of him. Turns out I’m in a situation with his buddy and the negativity poison continues to spew from him. All I can do is focus on me and ignore the ass wholes and be willing to work for less in order to continue with certain clients.
I used to appear crazy and over sensitive to some and my peers that believed me were too afraid to go up against this monster for their own career security.
But I’m not crazy. And I’m winning because I don’t have to rely on others for my success and self worth. At least that’s what I’m working on.
Im happy that you recognize her for what she is!
I get this. I'm sorry, but your anger over "happy father's day" made me laugh, then cry... I have this rage too. Not sure what to do with it. There are people we can't close the doors on because they have our kids etc. The emotional control tortures us.
I have considered a no-contact restraining order, unless there is an accident, health issue, etc... but my own fears stop me from doing it. So I play along for fear of fear. It is hard to let go of what was the "norm" for so long. I feel guilty for thinking of me, just me and my well-being. Here is my coping technique for what it is worth....
Delete it so you can't re-read it 1 bazillion times and hurt yourself a bazillion times and get enraged over and over. You are hurting yourself.
Fl?Do something very nice for yourself (if you can afford it after paying for everything). Movie, with popcorn, a walk in the park (it never stops raining here
and is hot as hell - so I cant do that one), one scoop of your favorite flavor. What is your fav thing to do?
Can you take a class, something you want to know how to do (besides load a gun or throw rocks in a precise manner at exes)
Hmm. I'll give it a try.just to take the focus off of the ex, the family. There is YOU too.... you need to deflate and dilute their influence over you by adding more sugar to the mix. I took a baking class and met so many great people, I wasn't quite in a space to date again, but I could of...
Anyway, I am new here and shouldn't probably reach out because I am so screwed up.
YeaBut your post hit me in the heart. I have this rage too. It comes and goes easily over the smallest things. It is my rage, regardless of who I blame for it, only I have the power over me. I don't act on it, but it eats me. I fear not complying and that pisses me off. I am looking for a kung fu class to help me control myself, but there is not one offered near me, LOL.
Hugs from a fellow raging ptsd ex