I am writing to ask advice from any one. I have just had the worst two days of my life- at east that's how it seems right now. For those of you who don't know me, I am a full time uni student, a full time mum to a one year old and I am now 18 weeks pregnant again. My partner was discharged from the army in August. Before he was discharged we had an agreement that he would have at least a casual job by the end of three months; I was worried that if he didn't get back intot he workforce soon after discharge he never would. He has been offered a job laying pavers, which he seemed to enjoy, but he turned it down when they wanted him to go part time. He has been given heaps of info about getting a job as a prison warden and he hasn't even bothered to get the information package sent out. He hasn't even looked for a job since his discharge. He tells me he wants to go to Tafe, but that course doesn't start til February and he doesn't seem to care about looking into that either- he hasn't even rang the tafe. I am really concerned because with another child on the way I don't want to have to rely on government handouts (at the moment we get his invalidity payments and part of the pension- approximately 1300 a fortnight). He doesn't seem to care that our whole life is up in the air; at least it feels that way to me! Our bills just keep piling up and because of his bad credit rating and my lack of earnings, we can't even get a loan to get them out of the way. Whenever I ask him about why he isn;t looking for work; he tells me it's because if he gets a job now it will affect his compensation payout! I have no idea if this is true; I just find it really hard to believe. I have my famil and his on my back to get him to get a job, but he keeps using this same excuse. It has gotten to the stage where I am telling people the same story; but every one knows I don't believe it. Can anyone tell me if this is true, or if he is just being a lazy bum? I wouldn't mind so much if he helped around the house while I was at uni; and he does occassionally; he waters the lawns at night time and occassionally cooks and does the dishes. But today I was at uni for two hours and came home to check on him, the dishes fromt eh night before were still in the sink, there was dirt all over my lounge room floor, dishes piled up in the lounge room, and about 4 loads of laundry that needed to be done; he was sitting down watching a movie!!! This is really starting to get to me, as I then had to do it all before going back to uni for another class. Please help...