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My Mom put a "bad faith" PFA (Protection From Abuse) on me. I feel broken every day. I am lt survivor of DV
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<blockquote data-quote="Dolce" data-source="post: 1779732" data-attributes="member: 51554"><p>Recover from the trauma of abuse then being put on trial and basically crucified for my own abuse and being labeled FALSELY an abuser. This is the preposeterous thing but it can happen. It's called a restraining order in other states. My own mother put on on me yet followed me the person who is so "scary" and "angry". I was at most needy. And yes I still feel needy of her b/c this is so ingrained and was even encouraged and told to me by my Mother..."Behave b/c you need me", prior.</p><p></p><p>Also said things abusers say such as I don't act this way around anyone else...and you make me do this...my Mom's quotes not mine. I said we should talk respectfully toward one another on a walk we can disagree but you need to talk respectfully she said w a vacant creepy look, " I need to be respectful?" I have been abused basically my entire life and yet I bear the scarlet letter of abused and falsely abuser even. It happens. I saw a show where a woman who hired a hitman to kill her husband in Carlsbad Ca. had done it to her husband based on lies Deb Lovejoy....and Dave Letterman had some insane person put one on him b/c she said he was speaking to her through the TV. The judge said he granted it b/c she filled out the paperwork correctly. It was subsequently dropped for Letterman. The burden of proof is very low. It's meant to protect true DV victims. That is me. And I was labeled have been in my life so my Mom could feel vindicated for her and her husbands admitted and perverted abuses on me...yes even in my trial...and I was blamed. Pretty nuts but true. It happens. How does one recover from that? I have intense ptsd....and feelings of being less than when I am not. I would admit if I did wrong but I did not. I spoke the truth...apparently too much for my Moms likings. That's not a threat to life but is to her ego. It's not a reason for a PFA. A protection from Abuse order. Hard to disclose and very slanderous and she can do as she likes maybe follow me try to provoke me and no repercussions. I am more likely to be arrested if I spoke up.</p><p></p><p>I was not and am not safe.</p><p></p><p>I have to watch every step I make watch over my shoulder and have a slandered reputation. Again if I were guilty it wouldn't tear at me like it does. I am not. Ppl misuse these in divorces and maybe parents too who are mad at their kids for speaking up out about abuse to silence them. This was my case...and I was drug through the mud over my childhood thirty years later when my Stepdad and in fact she too were the criminals. Not me.</p><p></p><p>Sorry if this is intense. It's alot to go through. I hve a virtual meeting w a Dv group in 10 and am upset wondering ab being judged about this. The womens centre did little to stand up for me at the time when in fact detectives ( L enf) were trying to help me...said my Stepdad was an attempted rapist but 28 years ago...and I was 18...he passed the statute of limitations. One time I confronted him on things and he cavalierly said...Report it and you were hallucainating. I wasn't he would hve pled to my valid for all the good reasons one if one looks at the law. It's not meant for "bossy" daughters...if that's what I was...and maybe at times I was. My Mom and I had a strained relationship. I never threatned her nor could she say I ever did. I had two horrible lawyers. I could go one more about that. I won't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dolce, post: 1779732, member: 51554"] Recover from the trauma of abuse then being put on trial and basically crucified for my own abuse and being labeled FALSELY an abuser. This is the preposeterous thing but it can happen. It's called a restraining order in other states. My own mother put on on me yet followed me the person who is so "scary" and "angry". I was at most needy. And yes I still feel needy of her b/c this is so ingrained and was even encouraged and told to me by my Mother..."Behave b/c you need me", prior. Also said things abusers say such as I don't act this way around anyone else...and you make me do this...my Mom's quotes not mine. I said we should talk respectfully toward one another on a walk we can disagree but you need to talk respectfully she said w a vacant creepy look, " I need to be respectful?" I have been abused basically my entire life and yet I bear the scarlet letter of abused and falsely abuser even. It happens. I saw a show where a woman who hired a hitman to kill her husband in Carlsbad Ca. had done it to her husband based on lies Deb Lovejoy....and Dave Letterman had some insane person put one on him b/c she said he was speaking to her through the TV. The judge said he granted it b/c she filled out the paperwork correctly. It was subsequently dropped for Letterman. The burden of proof is very low. It's meant to protect true DV victims. That is me. And I was labeled have been in my life so my Mom could feel vindicated for her and her husbands admitted and perverted abuses on me...yes even in my trial...and I was blamed. Pretty nuts but true. It happens. How does one recover from that? I have intense ptsd....and feelings of being less than when I am not. I would admit if I did wrong but I did not. I spoke the truth...apparently too much for my Moms likings. That's not a threat to life but is to her ego. It's not a reason for a PFA. A protection from Abuse order. Hard to disclose and very slanderous and she can do as she likes maybe follow me try to provoke me and no repercussions. I am more likely to be arrested if I spoke up. I was not and am not safe. I have to watch every step I make watch over my shoulder and have a slandered reputation. Again if I were guilty it wouldn't tear at me like it does. I am not. Ppl misuse these in divorces and maybe parents too who are mad at their kids for speaking up out about abuse to silence them. This was my case...and I was drug through the mud over my childhood thirty years later when my Stepdad and in fact she too were the criminals. Not me. Sorry if this is intense. It's alot to go through. I hve a virtual meeting w a Dv group in 10 and am upset wondering ab being judged about this. The womens centre did little to stand up for me at the time when in fact detectives ( L enf) were trying to help me...said my Stepdad was an attempted rapist but 28 years ago...and I was 18...he passed the statute of limitations. One time I confronted him on things and he cavalierly said...Report it and you were hallucainating. I wasn't he would hve pled to my valid for all the good reasons one if one looks at the law. It's not meant for "bossy" daughters...if that's what I was...and maybe at times I was. My Mom and I had a strained relationship. I never threatned her nor could she say I ever did. I had two horrible lawyers. I could go one more about that. I won't. [/QUOTE]
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