I have been married to my wife for 5 years. The first 3 years was absolutely amazing. We just had our first child together 17 months ago. Since then she has been so distant and isolate s herself from me. She doesn’t show any affection and also doesn’t want to do anything with me. She has started to control everything I do. I am not allowed to watch our daughter by myself or even take her out of eyesight. She panics if I take her in another room. If I don’t agree with something I get punished like a kid. I recently found out that she suffered sexual trauma abuse as a young child. She told me she has PTSD which caused a eating disorder in her previous marriage. We have children from previous marriage that lives with us. My daughter who is 9 and her son who is16. Plus our daughter who is 17 months. She has all these rules for me and my daughter but her son has no rules or responsibilities. She has been physically abusive to me twice. I have begged her to help me understand how to deal with this and help me understand what triggers her. Like she goes weeks without talking to me. We are going to marriage counseling but I didn’t go today because she hasn’t talked to me since the last one. Even though we had a appointment I assumed she wasn’t going since no communication since the one the previous week.