"Antisocial" is a bit of a bum steer as a label. Many psychopaths and sociopaths are phenomenally charismatic. It's often seen as a defining feature.
What I do know is that I have a tendency to curry favor and if something seems off regarding a persons mood, my first feeling is I must have done something wrong and try to do damage control when none is necessary.
I can come off as "it's always all about me" because during "episodes" I need constant confirmation that "things are okay between us". It can be with coworkers, my children or friends during the usual short time those relationships last.
I know I am draining when I am like this because the process becomes redundant and one-sided.
This is something I am working on but change is a process. Part of that process is understanding its roots. Not in a I want to quote a diagnostic manual way but in an effort to understand my own unhealthy, developmentally learned traits.
As are many narcissists, when they want to be. I've had a lot of conversations about this with my T. He says, as a general rule, when he meets someone with a lot of charisma, his narcissist detector goes into gear. Not ALL charismatic people fit this category, but his advice is to look closely and be suspicious.Many psychopaths and sociopaths are phenomenally charismatic
And, when you think about it, they probably can. What would appeal to a person how KNOWS they are the center of the known universe more than to be involved with someone who's sure the other person is always right? :confused: I don't know that most of these people are running around looking for people they can hurt. I think it's more likely that most of them are just looking for people who can and will fulfill their needs. A certain lack of self esteem and self worth fits pretty nicely with that.it feels like they can smell the slightest chance of a nearly co-dependent "need" to please from across the room.
I think it's more likely that most of them are just looking for people who can and will fulfill their needs.
that to be diagnosed with NPD a person has to have 5 of the major traits.
A narcissist, according to my T anyway, is probably born that way.
First I am not totally comfortable with the term "disorder" becoming a label for those whose brains work differently than what is considered the "societal norm" BUT it is better than previous assumptions of being possessed