Need Advice... Help...

[Lonely666-1]

Hi everyone....

I am in a new relationship with someone who has been diagnosed with combat PTSD.... I am just having a hard time dealing with his ups and downs.... When he has his ups, it is amazing. I feel like I found the right guy. But during his downs he just pushes me away. If I was a normal girl I think this wouldn't be as big as a problem as it is.

I myself have major issues. I was abandoned as a kid and have issues with relationships. I am terrified of being alone and being abandoned again. I feel like no one can love me and when someone does say he loves me I put my everything to it so I feel like he won't leave... No not healthy at all. I have tried to fix this but I am not making any progress...

Every time a guy I am dating sees this "episode" ( Me being suicidal because I feel like I am losing him or start having a panic attack) the guy drops me like I have the plague...

I am starting to feel like I shouldn't be in a relationship. But I love this guy... I know its only been a few months and that it is probably too early to tell but I want things to work out with him... I feel like I need to give him his space but when I give him his space I start having anxiety. Am I in a doomed relationship?

 

[joeylittle]

Every time a guy I am dating sees this "episode" ( Me being suicidal because I feel like I am losing him or start having a panic attack) the guy drops me like I have the plague...

Have you spent any time in therapy? Because this is actually something you can work on - it's just hard to work on it yourself.

 

[EveHarrington]

I'm concerned that you become suicidal when you feel like a guy is pulling away. Are you in any type of treatment?

You may be in for a challenge if you want to be in a relationship with someone who has PTSD if a need for space pushes you to feeling suicidal.

 

[Friday]

Am I in a doomed relationship?

Possibly literally.

If you get suicidal when someone needs space... And you're dating someone who's disorder includes isolating? Well. That's one version of exposure therapy. Strikes me as very kill or cure, however.