Oh man, I’m sorry @Feelinghelpless. It’s been three months for me. My strategy the past week has been to just let her go (in my expectations and hoping she will come back). She needs space and really I can focus on me again. It took awhile to get here but I’m focusing on myself with no expectations of her. I’m living like she will never come back. If she does, we will see where I am and if I really want to deal with this again. Answer is most likely no.Im in a very similar situation as Marcus. How long is “a while?” Days? Mine has been 4 months ... how long should Marcus wait?
I will always love her and I want what is best for her, not me. I can move on but she will always have to live with ptsd-and that makes me realize that she has to do what’s best for her. That just might be, me not in her life.
Hang in there - this experience is so brutal and it hurts like a bitch but you can will come out of it a better person. That’s the best you can do for yourself and her.