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Lostvoice

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Hey how are you @Lostvoice ?

Hi, not doing so good today. Feeling confused after a talk with therapist. I feel like what I experienced maybe ‘isn’t that’s bad’ I’m 33 and had all kinds of abuse but I’ve never turned to drink or drugs, and I don’t have any children sadly so I guess I don’t really need or deserve help?? My automatic response to stress is to detach/dissociate as it was for all my traumatic events, I had the freeze response. Maybe I can’t change how I feel and I just need to live with it?
 

Defaultxlove

MyPTSD Pro
Hi, not doing so good today. Feeling confused after a talk with therapist. I feel like what I experienced maybe ‘isn’t that’s bad’ I’m 33 and had all kinds of abuse but I’ve never turned to drink or drugs, and I don’t have any children sadly so I guess I don’t really need or deserve help?? My automatic response to stress is to detach/dissociate as it was for all my traumatic events, I had the freeze response. Maybe I can’t change how I feel and I just need to live with it?
Im sorry to hear you're not doing so good. I have been confused after many therapy sessions.

I am dissociative these past couple days. Or maybe longer.

Did the therapist say something like your trauma isn't valid?
 

Lostvoice

Learning
Im sorry to hear you're not doing so good. I have been confused after many therapy sessions.

I am dissociative these past couple days. Or maybe longer.

Did the therapist say something like your trauma isn't valid?

We were taking about if I’m ready to join a support group run by a domestic abuse team and she said “a lot of them there may have even had it worse then you, as hard to believe as that might be” but I would never go there and assume I’d had it worse or better. It’s not comparable! But she said how although I’ve had a lifetime of bad events, other there will be older than me, with children and also had a lifetime of bad events. So I just feel like I won’t belong in these groups. I feel like i don’t belong anywhere to be honest.
 

Teasel

MyPTSD Pro
I think you beling, absolutely. Also I onow that it is extrememly common for us that have exoeriemced trauma to think what we went through isn't all that bad, but it's stuff and nonsense, trauma is bad, it just so happens that a common symptom or reaction to it is minimising it.

I've known I've had ptsd since I first read about it in the 90's, and until even last year, I regularly doubted I had it, over and over.

Reading a list of the symptoms usually reminds me, oh yes, actually I do have it, I don't know if that might help you?
Just kind of wanted to validate, that the very fact you think you mightn't belong is so normal.

Hope you try out the group, in my experience they've been very accepting and validating spaces.
 

wisteria

Confident
We were taking about if I’m ready to join a support group run by a domestic abuse team and she said “a lot of them there may have even had it worse then you, as hard to believe as that might be” but I would never go there and assume I’d had it worse or better. It’s not comparable! But she said how although I’ve had a lifetime of bad events, other there will be older than me, with children and also had a lifetime of bad events. So I just feel like I won’t belong in these groups. I feel like i don’t belong anywhere to be honest.
Hi! And welcome!

ok, that being said, I'm kinda appalled she would say that, esp the 'worse than you' part. wth? cuz you are so right, it is not comparable. boy that would throw me for a loop as well. in fact I was just saying to my T yesterday that my experience 'wasn't that bad' and if he had responded that way, i would have felt horribly invalidated, which is something i definitely struggle with. I would definitely bring it up with her the next time you see her. maybe there was some sort of misunderstanding there. sorry, i'm lousy with advice so I don't usually offer it for that reason. that was just my gut reaction to your post.

you definitely deserve help! (i'm not going to say you need help, but we all deserve it!) I haven't been here on this forum too long myself, but like you, although older, i didn't turn to drink or drugs, have no kids, and def dissociate/detach as a way of dealing.
 

{hot~tea}

New Here
Hi, not doing so good today. Feeling confused after a talk with therapist. I feel like what I experienced maybe ‘isn’t that’s bad’ I’m 33 and had all kinds of abuse but I’ve never turned to drink or drugs, and I don’t have any children sadly so I guess I don’t really need or deserve help?? My automatic response to stress is to detach/dissociate as it was for all my traumatic events, I had the freeze response. Maybe I can’t change how I feel and I just need to live with it?
I highly recommend you check out on Instagram The Holistic Psychologist! You should never feel like your trauma is "not that bad" and she goes over that very well in her book How To Do The Work. What you've experienced with your previous diagnosis of "general anxiety" and "chronic depression" is very common for people who actually have CPTSD.

Also check out this video:
 
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