New Hope

[barca77]

Just with these past few days being away from my family during this hard time I'm finally seem signs of hope from my fiance. Yesterday we argued quite a bit, but when I got there I ran the errands we needed for our kids and told her how much I loved her things got better. I gave her a hug and told her how much I miss her and love her. For the first time in a month I actually got a hug back from her. Today she let me take our twins out to spend thier gift cards they got for thier b-day and again I gave her a hug telling her how I felt. She hugged me back, not saying anything back I knew what she felt. Not only did I get to spend time with our kids she let me stay for dinner and we had a good time not talking about our issues. Before I left I gave our kids a hug and told them that this is temporary and that I love them. Then I gave her a hug and a kiss telling her again how I feel about her and that I know that we are going to make it. As I went to let go to give her a kiss on her forehead ahe didn't let go right away. That gave me the hope that I needed to carry on. I know that this is going to be a long bumpy road ahead of us, but I'm not going to give up. I know now that she feels the same way. Any insite or help on this please let me know. I would like to talk to some in person or even over this to help keep me driving in the right direction. My friend always tells me to CYEOYM and thats what I have been doing. It has been my strength to carry on like she has been my guiding light since I've been back.

 

[patrick]

Barca,

Holding on to relationships has always been so hard for me. I am glad to see you are hopeful about yours, and wish you the best. If I had a good answer for what else you could do, I would sure give it to you. It looks like letting her know how you feel without smothering her is working for you.

Pat

 

[cragger65]

This is excellent Barca. I can't claim to know what's best next, but "take it slow" really springs to mind. As long as there is still that hope and promise, I'm sure the way will reveal itself if you are patient.