Howdy... I was in an emotionally (and sometimes physically) abusive relationship for almost two decades. I have been free since March 2020 and recently started dating someone. We are both high functioning professionals with tons of love for life, family and friends and we are both super positive and joyful people. He is gentle, kind and also was in an emotionally abusive relationship with his ex. I did tons of healing while single, but now that I am in a relationship I have this pattern developing where I am constantly scanning conversations, texts, calls, etc for signs of conflict so I can resolve them before they happen. There have been two times where I have had panic attacks or triggered PTSD when we are talking about something that would have triggered a fight for my previous spouse. My boyfriend is calm, cool and so loving... and isn't upset about anything, but I break down in tears and revert to my unhealthy ways of apologizing and trying to fix the problem... but there is no actual problem. He thinks I am upset with him and I am not, but he is starting to pull away and I am pretty sure I have ruined what was the best thing that has ever happened to me. Help me please, I am desperate to know what to do.