For much of my life, I've bought into my parent's phrase saying, "We don't beat you!" So I'm not mistreated. He only threatened to kill me over and over, and said that the family didn't deserve him, and I wouldn't amount to anything....emotional abuse goes on and on. Now my family(other members) are much more insidious with their actions-psychologically. *I have to live with elephants in the rooms with each person on a daily basis while staying with the family. It's HARD, it's triggering. And sometimes what is said to me makes me feel like "a horse kicked me in the stomach!"