Where is the best place for family members to “hone” these skills? My wife has CPTSD and I’m good with the validating and supporting her through her trauma responses and dysregulation, but am not perfect. We had a two day spiral that I could t pull out of because I got so hurt and shut down. I said some really mean things and now she’s threatening to leave because I’m unsafe. Really deveststed.Dealing with short tempered people in pain is a lot like dealing with a panic attack… it’s a skill.
If you haven’t had reasons to hone that skill? Because he’s not usually like that, and your own emotions have been blunted? Makes total sense you overreacted, took things personally, and tripped into trauma-land & dysreg.