BoyfriendqwithPTSD
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Hi everyone.
SO and I went away 2 days ago for a short getaway. It was his suggestion. He said he felt he needed to change environment. As far as I can understand, his current environment reminds him a lot of his trauma and he often says he needs a break from it.
He started therapy about 2 months ago and has increasingly been feeling worse. Before therapy he wanted to work on our relationship but since his sessions, that will has become less and less. He says he can’t cope with a relationship and that he does not feel anything what so ever. He says this is unfair on me and he does not want to lead me on. He says at times that I should just move on because he does not think him and I will make it.
When we went away together he was affectionate in some ways, he would hold my hand, he held me when we were asleep, he did refer to me as his ’partner’ on some occasions. I did not discuss our relationship at all, I didn’t ask anything or mention anything as it puts stress on him.
However, since we’ve been away he’s been extremely distant. I don’t know if this is because we spent more time together than we have for ages, and it put stress on him?
We’re in a distance relationship (45 min), so we don’t always get to spend loads of time together. He has since therapy also been reluctant to spend time together as he feels he is ‘leading me on’ and doesn’t want me to fall deeper in love and then get hurt. I’ve told him he doesn’t have to worry, I’m a grown woman and I can take care of myself.
He is pulling away from me, usually he will ring me atleast once in a day. That hasn’t happened since we went away together.
I know none of you really know him, but he does have PTSD, and maybe someone would be able to explain why he is distant after our trip?
I am asking because, we actually had a pretty good time and it was just easy and casual. We enjoyed each other’s company and didn’t discuss the relationship so I didn’t expect him to pull away.
I’m also wondering if I should reach out if he is being distant? Part of me think that maybe he wants me to be more communicative. I tend to just leave him alone when he does this because from what I know about PTSD is that people sometimes because distant and it’s better to just leave them alone. It does hurt when he becomes like this though, because I know he’s spending time with friends and chatting lots to friends so he’s OK with them and not me.
Thank you everyone for any insight.
SO and I went away 2 days ago for a short getaway. It was his suggestion. He said he felt he needed to change environment. As far as I can understand, his current environment reminds him a lot of his trauma and he often says he needs a break from it.
He started therapy about 2 months ago and has increasingly been feeling worse. Before therapy he wanted to work on our relationship but since his sessions, that will has become less and less. He says he can’t cope with a relationship and that he does not feel anything what so ever. He says this is unfair on me and he does not want to lead me on. He says at times that I should just move on because he does not think him and I will make it.
When we went away together he was affectionate in some ways, he would hold my hand, he held me when we were asleep, he did refer to me as his ’partner’ on some occasions. I did not discuss our relationship at all, I didn’t ask anything or mention anything as it puts stress on him.
However, since we’ve been away he’s been extremely distant. I don’t know if this is because we spent more time together than we have for ages, and it put stress on him?
We’re in a distance relationship (45 min), so we don’t always get to spend loads of time together. He has since therapy also been reluctant to spend time together as he feels he is ‘leading me on’ and doesn’t want me to fall deeper in love and then get hurt. I’ve told him he doesn’t have to worry, I’m a grown woman and I can take care of myself.
He is pulling away from me, usually he will ring me atleast once in a day. That hasn’t happened since we went away together.
I know none of you really know him, but he does have PTSD, and maybe someone would be able to explain why he is distant after our trip?
I am asking because, we actually had a pretty good time and it was just easy and casual. We enjoyed each other’s company and didn’t discuss the relationship so I didn’t expect him to pull away.
I’m also wondering if I should reach out if he is being distant? Part of me think that maybe he wants me to be more communicative. I tend to just leave him alone when he does this because from what I know about PTSD is that people sometimes because distant and it’s better to just leave them alone. It does hurt when he becomes like this though, because I know he’s spending time with friends and chatting lots to friends so he’s OK with them and not me.
Thank you everyone for any insight.