General Partner projects others past actions on me how do I handle this and how to react

[southwest]

I had originally posted this as a response in the general rant section, however I'm interested to see how other supporters handle this. So before my partner pulled away she always expected me to act the same way as her abusers in the past even after months of me showing her through my good actions i would not do that. it was completely draining for me and i never understood how to help her trust me more. i know this is a tippical response but even over time it didnt seem to ever change

 

[Sweetpea76]

There is not much that you can do, except to be consistent. Do what you say, say what you mean, and hope you can win trust. I think when he’s in a good spot my partner trusts me. When he is symptomatic that all goes out the window.