Emerg Services Pets added stressor?

I was wondering if anyone with PTS or any other anxiety order discovered that a pet actually made their condition worse? It seems odd, but I have a 10 month old dog I raised from 8wks old. I love him, but it seems taking care of him causes a regression in my condition. Has anyone had this happen? Thank you.
 

Freida

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I haven't had that but I can see that it could be.

Pets are a ton of work and some days that just to much to add to my plate.
But I think it has more to do with them showing us unconditional love, no matter how loud or cranky we are. That may be causing regression because of how much it hurts to let ourselves love something, or let ourselves recieve love from others - even a pet.

But you can't push pets away like you can with humans. So then its back to coping skills to figure out "what do I do with these feeings?"
 

ruborcoraxxx

MyPTSD Pro
I have terrible episodes of anxiety just thinking Peanut is on the other side of the door, waiting. Now I had to let her at a friend’s apartment because I’m travelling and I feel super crappy about it. Basically it triggers all the alarms of being a good caretaker and making another being happy and healthy. At the end I do love her and am happy to have her, but emotionally it’s not that simple.
 
I haven't had that but I can see that it could be.

Pets are a ton of work and some days that just to much to add to my plate.
But I think it has more to do with them showing us unconditional love, no matter how loud or cranky we are. That may be causing regression because of how much it hurts to let ourselves love something, or let ourselves recieve love from others - even a pet.

But you can't push pets away like you can with humans. So then its back to coping skills to figure out "what do I do with these feeings?"
Wow, I had never thought about it at that deep level. I just figured not being able to sleep in and the constant attention he needs was wearing me out. But maybe you are onto something with the other part. Thanks for that reply ❤
 

DharmaGirl

MyPTSD Pro
I have a 7 month old mastiff pup and she was acquired during lockdown so she didn't get properly socialized. She is becoming more and more clingy and just today I was at my wit's end with her. I am going to start crate training her so I can get a break.
 
I have a 7 month old mastiff pup and she was acquired during lockdown so she didn't get properly socialized. She is becoming more and more clingy and just today I was at my wit's end with her. I am going to start crate training her so I can get a break.
I can completely understand. They are still babies at 7 months. Crate her and get some "me" time. I use to feel guilty leaving mine alone, but I dont anymore.
 

Freddyt

Learning
Yup it happens. I have a pet at the other end of life and she can raise my stress level instantly. She is 19 and very habituated to what used to be my schedule for the first 15 years she was with us. She starts "yelling" (you would never believe that much noise can come out of that little cat) when my wife usually got up in the morning but since she is working at home - its now an hour before she gets up. Then she starts on me at my old wake up time.
I feel sad though at her routine when she wants to sit on my lap. TV and me are in the basement and she starts meowing at the top of the stairs, then the landing, then hides behind my exer-cycle, and needs a positive response at each step before she gets on my chair with me. I know why - my startle response and instant anger are what she is avoiding. That makes me sad and frustrated - because I want to react differently.
I also struggle when she gets clingy. That is more difficult to deal with in some ways. That seems to instantly raise my stress and annoyance that almost instantly turns to anger (rage?). I have to really change my frame of reference and remember she is there for the same reason people are near. Because they love me and they want to help me.
 
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