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Sufferer "Phred" here

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My father was a Vietnam Veteran who was (to say the least) heavy handed, and not normal at all. I did not realize it until I was about 12. He often turned to Christianity to heal himself, but it did not work at all. He only used the bible as tool to beat me with.

He had gone to Thailand to "learn Eastern philosophy” but failed. I have a half-sister because all he did was chase women. His only hobby was womanizing, scamming people out of money, and beating the crap out of me.

I had a vasectomy when I was 22 because I figured my father’s genes sucked, so I rather not pass them on.

In order to escape the hood, I joined the USAF at 23 in 1989 (just in time for the Gulf War). I rather not talk about that part. All I can say is the recruiters and everyone else said that the USAF is easy, and nothing ever happens. They LIED!

When I got home the first thing that happened was I got in trouble with the law. The good news is the VA did pay for my education, and I was able to start my career. I adopted Buddhism as my philosophy.

Things went fine for a while, then started to go downhill after my identity was stolen, and I got divorced in 2008. I needed a change. In 2010, I took a job in Singapore. I met my new wife there. We traveled the world. Sadly, I was a witness to terrorism in Thailand in 2015.

She was a widow from Myanmar. Her husband was blown to chunks in the Myanmar military. I have since adopted her son. We are a very close family.

When I got back in 2018, my identity was stolen again. I was angry because privacy rules protect the criminal and not the victim. The laws in the USA are completely dysfunctional. Living in Asia I was accustomed to real law enforcement, and that does not exist I the USA.

I took the law into my own hands and ended up arrested by the FBI for Cyberterrorism. The charges were later mostly dropped. I am presently in the “VA Court” program. The final charges will be dropped when I complete the program.

I was evaluated. I get no disability, but they said that I have “PTSD like Anxiety”. That is all I know.

I have phonophobia, fear of sitting with my back to the door, fear of identity theft.

Sorry to get long winded. I have nobody to talk about this stuff with.
 
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So you play with terrorists, are surprised other assholes steal your identity, and want to blame US military that gave you a chance and training, for it?

Oh.

Interesting you have the nerve to come to a group of mostly civilian victims, most of them women, and cry for pity.

Not impressed.
 
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So you play with terrorists, are surprised other assholes steal your identity, and want to blame US military that gave you a chance and training, for it?

Oh.

Interesting you have the nerve to come to a group of mostly civilian victims, most of them women, and cry for pity.

Not impressed.
Not sure what bringing up gender does in terms of relevance?

Reeks of sexism to me.

Sure doesn't sound compassionate.

I'm sure he's not concerned with "impressing" some stranger on the internet.

This man is hurting, like the rest of us.

What would "impress" this female, mother-of-many, would be the customary courtesy and compassion this site is usually known for, regardless of anything to do with gender, or personal judgements.
 
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@mumstheword Mums, please understand my reference to gender was something else.

It implied traditionally female traits *like compassion and being super empathic* - easy to exploit.

Especially if said women don't have the similar background.

Because, you know, people don't end up with terrorism *charges* just for viewing what does say Da'esh say. Or else academics couldn't do their research.

And of course I am going to exercise critical thinking ("being judgmental") over people who I believe may present only the part of the story they want others to see.

And who as stated are not even diagnosed with PTSD... and most of their post is about spinning how involved in crime they are and it's unfaaair to them.

I'm not sure if you noticed - but I have vastly different reaction to members who have issues with being criminal - *who actually have PTSD*. And who may be in trouble with the law because their stated circumstances were being victims of crime - like DV, gang violence, so on.
 
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So you play with terrorists, are surprised other assholes steal your identity, and want to blame US military that gave you a chance and training, for it?

Oh.

Interesting you have the nerve to come to a group of mostly civilian victims, most of them women, and cry for pity.

Not impressed.
I do not care if you are impressed. I did not come to impress. If you are an example of what lurks here, then I am on the wrong forum.

Maybe you should sharpen your reading skills. You are going to have to point out were I said anything about playing with terrorists. I have never met any terrorists that I know of. I was only a witness (at a distance) to a bombing in THAILAND. My identify was stolen by an American in Arizona.

I did not plan to go into this but let me set the record very straight…..

When I returned after my four years stint, I registered my DD214 with the country recorder as I was told to do. I never thought about the fact that it contained my name address, and SSN, and that was just what a thief was looking for. Later, he or someone working with him, was stealing my mail out of my mailbox. One of my neighbors saw him.

He obtained a driver license in my name. He went on a crime spree for nearly two years before he was arrested on counts of identity theft, counts of using fake government ID, government benefit fraud, check fraud, grand theft auto, and so on.

I learned that he was arrested when he attempted to get a payday loan in my name. That was the end of that, or so I thought (circa 1998).

Years later when I returned from Singapore in 2018, I received a letter about a domestic airline class action lawsuit. I thought that was strange. How could I have bought any domestic airline tickets when I was out of the USA all that time. I needed to know who is buying airline tickets in my name.

The TSA, and FBI refused to help me. The six airlines cited in the lawsuit said they had zero records of me flying domestically during the period and denied having handed over my name as part of the lawsuit.

I had no other party to contact except the class action lawsuit administrator who had my name on the class member roster. They refused to disclose what airline I had allegedly flown on, to where or when. So, I told them I would take the information from their servers. That was not enough to impress them. A month or so went by, and then I reported them to the FTC for fraud. I guess that made them angry because they cited it as harassment along with my threat to access their servers. The FBI showed up at my work. I was arrested for “Cyber terrorism”. It did not help that they looked at my resume on indeed and decided that I had all the skills necessary to commit a cyber-attack against the alleged victim.
 
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So you play with terrorists, are surprised other assholes steal your identity, and want to blame US military that gave you a chance and training, for it?

Oh.

Interesting you have the nerve to come to a group of mostly civilian victims, most of them women, and cry for pity.

Not impressed.
Wait... WHAT???!!!???

First, maybe you don't belong in the Introduction thread? Judging is NOT the way to welcome someone to a site about PTSD!!! You really expect someone to share EVERYTHING to justify being here?

Who cares if you're impressed??? I'm embarrassed for you...

@phred
I apologize for any judgement that is shown here! You have gone through a LOT of trauma of different "shapes and sizes" and deserve compassion and empathy!

Having your identity stolen is VERY traumatic and to have it done twice is just horrid! I can't imagine! The fallout lasts for years and years...

Please don't leave because of one person's spin on your trauma history. I appreciate you for your time fighting for our country! I hope you will find positive feedback and come to feel safe here.
 
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@phred
I apologize for any judgement that is shown here! You have gone through a LOT of trauma of different "shapes and sizes" and deserve compassion and empathy!

Having your identity stolen is VERY traumatic and to have it done twice is just horrid! I can't imagine! The fallout lasts for years and years...

Please don't leave because of one person's spin on your trauma history. I appreciate you for your time fighting for our country! I hope you will find positive feedback and come to feel safe here.
Thanx Angelkeeper. The rude message I was responding to was removed by the moderators, so my response now looks a bit non-sequitur. Hahahaha

I do not recall the posters' handle. He or she made a dumb assumption. It set off my defenses.
 
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Welcome to the forums! You may want to be careful posting about still pending legal matters online. Sounds like possibly moments of emotional dysregulation from frustration over the system failing on the ID theft lead to a threat to hack a server. (Serious charges are not usually taken to VA court and dismissed at the end of a sentence.) Not wise and I'm glad you didn't follow through and your case is on the road to dismissal and hopefully a lesson learned! I hope the idenity theft was cleared up too. That can be a doozy. Are you in treatment for the PTSD?
 
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