Hi and thanks for being here. I was so releived to find a forum for the loved ones of persons with PTSD. I'm very new to all this but needed some help with my fiancee. I guess some background could be helpful.
She's been diagnosed with PTSD and has almost all the symptoms of PTLS. Her PTSD stems from her being raped 3 times (12,17,21 yrs old) To top things off, last january, she lost her mother due to doctors poorly diagnosing her. If that weren't enough, she's got 3 kids from 3 different fathers. The first left her once he found out she was pregnant, second was abusive, and the third was very controling. (and still tries to get some sort of control over her) Now, when we got together, she told me about everything. Nothing in detail, but i was aware. I still dont know much about it but she has opend up a little with details. Now, however, it's coming upon the aniversary of her mother's passing. She's become very distant, angry at the slightest thing, doesn't want any form of intimacy, i'm lucky if i can give a brief hug. It kills me because i want to console and comfort her, to help her through it, but she doesn't want me to. She even went off one night saying she wasn't sure she even wanted our relationship, that it's not my responsibility to take care of her or her family. Either she dropped it or hid it, but she still says she's unsure if we'll make it. I'm just at my wits end trying to be patient with her and love her from a distance. Shes gotten into online games to "hide" and it really feels like she'd rather me not be there at all.
I guess i'm just asking on a little insight as to if i'm doing the right things, anything i can do more, needing an ear to listen (eye in this case) Thanks for reading this, take care!
She's been diagnosed with PTSD and has almost all the symptoms of PTLS. Her PTSD stems from her being raped 3 times (12,17,21 yrs old) To top things off, last january, she lost her mother due to doctors poorly diagnosing her. If that weren't enough, she's got 3 kids from 3 different fathers. The first left her once he found out she was pregnant, second was abusive, and the third was very controling. (and still tries to get some sort of control over her) Now, when we got together, she told me about everything. Nothing in detail, but i was aware. I still dont know much about it but she has opend up a little with details. Now, however, it's coming upon the aniversary of her mother's passing. She's become very distant, angry at the slightest thing, doesn't want any form of intimacy, i'm lucky if i can give a brief hug. It kills me because i want to console and comfort her, to help her through it, but she doesn't want me to. She even went off one night saying she wasn't sure she even wanted our relationship, that it's not my responsibility to take care of her or her family. Either she dropped it or hid it, but she still says she's unsure if we'll make it. I'm just at my wits end trying to be patient with her and love her from a distance. Shes gotten into online games to "hide" and it really feels like she'd rather me not be there at all.
I guess i'm just asking on a little insight as to if i'm doing the right things, anything i can do more, needing an ear to listen (eye in this case) Thanks for reading this, take care!