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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Movingforward10" data-source="post: 1721280" data-attributes="member: 49737">Totally relate. You're finding yourself. You're expressing yourself. You're discovering things. You want to have a voice. Particularly as our voices and our autonomy were stolen from us when we were abused. Of course we want to talk and express. So it is so upsetting and rejecting and deflating, and another thing to contend with, when those we want to talk to about this respond in ways that we don't find helpful. I have found that some people (and it has surprised me who these friends are as I wouldn't have expected it!) really are very confused when confronted by abuse. They just don't know how to handle it. My partner doesn't want to really hear some details as she gets very upset about it, and then she has no outlet for it.All of that doesn't help me, and I have to navigate it. But I suppose that is relationships? Friendships or otherwise. We have to work out the strengths in those relationships and the limitations etc. That's where good therapy comes in. It can help to navigate that. My T and I have worked a bit on my sense of needing to talk and who to tell. Particularly as I was thinking about reporting to the police. I think the need for people to know this part of you changes when you exmain precisely what the need is and where it comes from, and maybe other outlets for it.</blockquote>