If for whatever reason you do not have a father... do you have a substitute father? Do you have a man or even a woman in your life who represents a father-figure to you?
If you don't mind, why do you ask? Was there another question in mind?
Honestly, I don't think a replacement will help with grief. Grieving is a natural part of life's experience.
Just speaking for myself, never have, never will, wouldn't want to. People I have admired, mentors, what-have-you, but for better or worse I don't think anyone would fill that roll for anyone but a child or young person. I care for other peoples' parents all day, and if there's ever a similarity to my own, I may feel a wisp of grief etc, but only over what was there and is gone; they each one stand alone as their own unique person, and unique relationship.do you have a substitute father?.. a man or even a woman in your life who represents a father-figure to you?
Like the replacement could help with the need for closure with my grief maybe?
Ironically, I think some form of hope exists when people are still living, even if it be subconscious, since what 'life' infers is possibility. Short of sadists, but even then there may be hope for acknowledgment. Closure comes from grieving what is no longer possible. Death is the assurance of that. And for some, that brings relief. Others not.Not sure if it’s fantasy or cognitive distortion or hope.
Closure comes from grieving what is no longer possible.
he tapped out of actual parenting or basic human contact and dumped all the responsibility on my mom.
is it something that was never there; trying to overlook what was there, in the hopes of replacing it with what you think would be better or avoid facing it; or adding on to what was good; or never having any connotation or experience, good or poor?
I always wanted a relationship with dad, but that’s it. It’s done.