TruthSeeker
MyPTSD Pro
I was doing pretty well until a situation with my T set me back. While every trigger is different, when things start falling apart, I'm trying to get back to where I was....more quickly.....so, evaluating cause/effect of my behavior....and taking action for short-term and long-term is how I look at things.
It would be helpful to see how others re-regulate.....picking apart the trigger, my reaction, feeling, and steps to reregulate is something I'm working on, but I have to do it in steps to have any success at changing behaviors. Having a setback? How do you re-regulate after a set-back?
1.So can you share what feeling or situation caused (generally speaking) you to get dysregulated.
2.What behavior you did as a result.
3. How the setback made you feel
4. And one or more things that you are doing to regulate to get back to a more stable place (an action) that is positive.
5. A longer term goal to help maintain the goal behavior.
So I'll go first: Today's attempt at re-regulation (my plan):
1. My T broke my trust and I have to get another one-that is just plain scary.
2. I moved back to the bedroom-and shut down (safe-place)-something I thought I had a handle on (time spent in bed).
3. I feel betrayed (not a new feeling-that was my life-filled with betrayal) and this feeling and my replay of things in my head (looping) is preventing me from living and moving forward.
4. I looked for another T and she's on a trial basis, but getting out of bed has been hard. I feel like I've really gone backwards. But I will clean up the room, make my bed, stay out of it till at least 8pm, get something to eat (eating went to hell, big time), and will go out of the house to get some healthy groceries and if time, a pedicure (positives).
5. Goal: To get out of the bed by 9am and stay out of the bed until 8pm-(getting in bed is for sleep-not a living place).
I'd love to hear how other's get back to feeling like life is stable again.....I hate going backwards....its the wrong direction.
It would be helpful to see how others re-regulate.....picking apart the trigger, my reaction, feeling, and steps to reregulate is something I'm working on, but I have to do it in steps to have any success at changing behaviors. Having a setback? How do you re-regulate after a set-back?
1.So can you share what feeling or situation caused (generally speaking) you to get dysregulated.
2.What behavior you did as a result.
3. How the setback made you feel
4. And one or more things that you are doing to regulate to get back to a more stable place (an action) that is positive.
5. A longer term goal to help maintain the goal behavior.
So I'll go first: Today's attempt at re-regulation (my plan):
1. My T broke my trust and I have to get another one-that is just plain scary.
2. I moved back to the bedroom-and shut down (safe-place)-something I thought I had a handle on (time spent in bed).
3. I feel betrayed (not a new feeling-that was my life-filled with betrayal) and this feeling and my replay of things in my head (looping) is preventing me from living and moving forward.
4. I looked for another T and she's on a trial basis, but getting out of bed has been hard. I feel like I've really gone backwards. But I will clean up the room, make my bed, stay out of it till at least 8pm, get something to eat (eating went to hell, big time), and will go out of the house to get some healthy groceries and if time, a pedicure (positives).
5. Goal: To get out of the bed by 9am and stay out of the bed until 8pm-(getting in bed is for sleep-not a living place).
I'd love to hear how other's get back to feeling like life is stable again.....I hate going backwards....its the wrong direction.