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You’re just SURROUNDED with little Bluebirds of Happiness... aren’t you? Chaseus. With friends like these, just brimming over in faith & confidence in your capabilities, who needs enemies??? Do they kick puppies, too?I haven't told a lot of people yet but everyone that I have is filling my head with the millions of reasons why this is a bad idea, why I am just running away, avoiding the situation at work etc. Then they start in on how expensive it is live where I am going, how different the climate is and how I am going to hate it, or how it is all going to be completely new and I am going to fail and I am right back to telling myself how stupid I am, this is me being impulsive which never works out well for me.
Ditto. Being fired? Is not “running away”. What did these little birds want you to do? Weep & wail & rend your clothes & cut your hair? Sure! That’ll show ‘em! You won’t take being fired laying down! You’ll wallow in misery doing nothing of value, instead! Snort. Of COURSE you’re going to find a new job. That’s what one does when one job goes away; one gets a new job. That you got snatched up right away? Is hardly a) unexpected nor b) something to try and use to convince you is a bad thing & a mark against you. Unless, apparently, you’re these eedjits. WTFO?When your coworkers tell you that you're making a mistake by finding another job, don't they realize that you are losing the job you have now?
College kids? Never springbreak in Florida. Nor are flights wicked cheap all. winter. long. to attract the snowbirds on budgets, broke college kids, and families vacationing on credit. There’s certainly nothing in sunny Florida (from the redneck riviera -only a hop skip and a jump from NOLA- on the gulf coast, to the Latin pulse of Miami or the tropical Keys to the south, Central’s escapist fantasy lands, or hundreds of miles of prime Atlantic coastline) that might tempt a young buck and his friends to visit every chance they get.What was I thinking? As miserable as I was in my job I hadn't planned to do any major search outside of the State where I lived until after he graduated from college.
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You may well end up seeing him more often than you do, just a few hours away. Especially if you start saving/using air miles, getting travel deals, etc.? The expense of flying to tourist destinations is often far less than 8 hours worth of gas, and new snow tires / winter vehicle maintenance.
Murphy’s law, that... as it no longer matters what your old job (who fired you, not that you’re leaving on a whim) would find reasonable. As you don’t work there, anymore. Even if you stayed in state, that’s no guarantee that the new job would work with told jobs ideal therapy schedule. Vexing as hell, but such is life. And not somehing to blame yourself for. You didn’t create this situation. The Board did. You? Are responding to the situation quickly, decisively, and proactively. That’s a GOOD thing. Not some sort of self sabotagy way to avoid therapy thing, or impulsive reckless thing. When the chips are down? You are HANDLING it. With serious aplomb. A bit of good luck helped with that, as new job was able to snatch you up immediately instead of it being months of interviews in a drawn out hiring practice. You couldn’t have planned on things happening so quickly, you’re simply seizing the opportunity presented. Very different things.we had just arranged a schedule for the next couple of months where that was not only going to be possible but also reasonable in terms of when I would need to leave from work
Yes... acting swiftly means that there’s a little less time to prepare than you’d like... but it’s certainly better than the alternative of being stuck interview cycles for 6 months with half a dozen jobs, all waiting until the next quarter (or the next after that) to bring you on. Then it would be a question of being broke or living on credit, not able to pay for therapy at all, and a thousand other problems. Yes. There are problems that come along with swift changes. But the problems that come along with sloooooooow changes? Are arguably quite worse.
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