joeylittle
Sponsor
I'm just going to write from the heart here, people.
I've done my best to be a fair, helpful, patient administrator. I'm just like all of you - I have PTSD, just like you. I'm a person, just like you.
I've managed predators who have come onto the board. Also, members you would be surprised to find out have fabricated their history. Members who have tried to stalk and harass other members, both on-forum and off.
Times when email addresses were given out too casually and resulted in off-forum harassment and stalking.
Times when members have actively threatened suicide to such an extent that led me to try and track down their physician.
Times when members have insisted that they said things they never said, or respond to themselves as anonymous while pretending to be two different people, or decide for whatever reason that they are being unfairly treated on the forum. I've emailed with those members much more than would be prudent, probably.
All of this - all of it - is in an effort to treat each of you as individuals deserving of respect and support.
I have a different tolerance point than @anthony, and sometimes, that's gotten me into trouble - by letting members go too far. But he's been great in trusting me to make these decisions.
When I extended the bans on Rain and LilLynx - I'm assuming this is what it's all about, I have to guess because none of you bothered to reach out and tell me you were feeling this disenfranchised - it was not done without a lot of consideration.
I'm not going to tell you what they did. They know what they did, and I don't think it's appropriate for me to address it here. I wish I could, because you'd see what I see. In the end, a number of members left the forum because of the actions of these two.
Those members will likely not come back. But losing them should not have happened. It was harassment, pure and simple. It was mean. And, what really breaks my brain, it was based on something that was so small, and so part of the core ethos of this place...No-one did anything to them. They then wound themselves up and did some really bad stuff to others, people who weren't even involved.
I don't know what else to tell you.
So, if you want to spam the forum with messages about oppression...well, I guess that's what you want to do. You've forced me to temp ban you both because the spam needs to stop. People come here to talk about real abuse. To get help. Not to see some protest over the banning of two people you like, who have most certainly not told you the entire story.
This is a game to you, I guess. I'll sit here and delete the spam, which will take a while. All you've done is thrown buckets of shit, and whether intended or not, you threw them straight at my head. I understand upset feelings, griping, complaining, angry emails...expressing bad feelings. Absorbing that as a result of hard actions I sometimes take, that's OK. That's the job. I take the hard blows because I know people are struggling, and I know I've tried to make a decision for the greater good.
Enough babble. I know I'm wordy, I have brain damage, so it is what it is.
I hope from the bottom of my heart that some part of this gets through to you. So maybe next time you can show some compassion, or at least try and understand how, sometimes, people do bad things and there are consequences.
I've done my best to be a fair, helpful, patient administrator. I'm just like all of you - I have PTSD, just like you. I'm a person, just like you.
I've managed predators who have come onto the board. Also, members you would be surprised to find out have fabricated their history. Members who have tried to stalk and harass other members, both on-forum and off.
Times when email addresses were given out too casually and resulted in off-forum harassment and stalking.
Times when members have actively threatened suicide to such an extent that led me to try and track down their physician.
Times when members have insisted that they said things they never said, or respond to themselves as anonymous while pretending to be two different people, or decide for whatever reason that they are being unfairly treated on the forum. I've emailed with those members much more than would be prudent, probably.
All of this - all of it - is in an effort to treat each of you as individuals deserving of respect and support.
I have a different tolerance point than @anthony, and sometimes, that's gotten me into trouble - by letting members go too far. But he's been great in trusting me to make these decisions.
When I extended the bans on Rain and LilLynx - I'm assuming this is what it's all about, I have to guess because none of you bothered to reach out and tell me you were feeling this disenfranchised - it was not done without a lot of consideration.
I'm not going to tell you what they did. They know what they did, and I don't think it's appropriate for me to address it here. I wish I could, because you'd see what I see. In the end, a number of members left the forum because of the actions of these two.
Those members will likely not come back. But losing them should not have happened. It was harassment, pure and simple. It was mean. And, what really breaks my brain, it was based on something that was so small, and so part of the core ethos of this place...No-one did anything to them. They then wound themselves up and did some really bad stuff to others, people who weren't even involved.
I don't know what else to tell you.
So, if you want to spam the forum with messages about oppression...well, I guess that's what you want to do. You've forced me to temp ban you both because the spam needs to stop. People come here to talk about real abuse. To get help. Not to see some protest over the banning of two people you like, who have most certainly not told you the entire story.
This is a game to you, I guess. I'll sit here and delete the spam, which will take a while. All you've done is thrown buckets of shit, and whether intended or not, you threw them straight at my head. I understand upset feelings, griping, complaining, angry emails...expressing bad feelings. Absorbing that as a result of hard actions I sometimes take, that's OK. That's the job. I take the hard blows because I know people are struggling, and I know I've tried to make a decision for the greater good.
Enough babble. I know I'm wordy, I have brain damage, so it is what it is.
I hope from the bottom of my heart that some part of this gets through to you. So maybe next time you can show some compassion, or at least try and understand how, sometimes, people do bad things and there are consequences.