Sadielady3
MyPTSD Pro
I am a forty year old woman (some of you know me, some probably don't) who has been working through the aftermath of an abusive childhood. Until October 2020, I didn't really realize that I had an abusive childhood. My mother was my primary abuser and probably my sole abuser during my early childhood years. I have been in good therapy for a little over a year now including an IOP program and two different group therapies on top of the excellent therapist that I have. I'm starting to realize that I have actually grown a great deal in the past year (yay!) through seeing how I handle different relationships a lot better these days. The issue is that I think my growth has made the toxic relationship I have with my mother, which I didn't realize was toxic, unbearable. As much as I would love to cut her off, I'm not in a place where I feel like I can do that due to overall family dynamics and where I am in my own personal growth.
Does anyone have any advice on how to redefine the relationship or adjust my role in it? I am starting EMDR soon (we're currently working through some grounding/calming strategies) regarding the damage she has done to me in terms of my core beliefs. I don't want her to hinder this progress in the present day by not doing things to protect myself. She's done enough to me in the past.
Does anyone have any advice on how to redefine the relationship or adjust my role in it? I am starting EMDR soon (we're currently working through some grounding/calming strategies) regarding the damage she has done to me in terms of my core beliefs. I don't want her to hinder this progress in the present day by not doing things to protect myself. She's done enough to me in the past.