So. . . I was reading the post about the wife seeking advice. I wish my husband would read some of this stuff.
I really have put him thru hell. I almost moved out last weekend, started a divorce and moved on. It's so much easier for me. . .
So. . . I was thinking about the questions she was (in the earlier post) asking and thinking about my husband. He asks me why I don't feel like things are "ours", why i'm not affectionate, understanding, patient, where's my emotion. . . stuff like that. Basically, when it came down to it he said "you know, there's something really wrong with you". I agree. He states "it's just a fork on the floor. . ." and I don't agree.
It's really hard to describe the internal feelings with this PTSD. Mine is from Childhood Trauma. I think that Anthony is a great "Summarator" (new word?)
It just takes commitment from both people in the relationship. Plain and simple. It takes acknowledgement and then face the reality if you can or cannot change a situation.
I chose to try to take control of my "situation" and am meeting a new counselor who specializes in PTSD, Childhood Trauma - and am also hoping to joing a weekly group.
Something's gotta give or my kid's never gonna forgive my being anal all the time, my family's never gonna see me truly smile out of true emotion, or my husband's gonna find someone who will give him a full hug.
So I hope that this is going to work. I would like to "reparticipate" on this board and really get this figured out for my sanity (Hah!) as well.
Anthony, you had answered to a post to where I was commenting on my mother and put a lot of time into your response. I really appreciate it and will find it and answer it to the fullest.
Take care all
I really have put him thru hell. I almost moved out last weekend, started a divorce and moved on. It's so much easier for me. . .
So. . . I was thinking about the questions she was (in the earlier post) asking and thinking about my husband. He asks me why I don't feel like things are "ours", why i'm not affectionate, understanding, patient, where's my emotion. . . stuff like that. Basically, when it came down to it he said "you know, there's something really wrong with you". I agree. He states "it's just a fork on the floor. . ." and I don't agree.
It's really hard to describe the internal feelings with this PTSD. Mine is from Childhood Trauma. I think that Anthony is a great "Summarator" (new word?)
It just takes commitment from both people in the relationship. Plain and simple. It takes acknowledgement and then face the reality if you can or cannot change a situation.
I chose to try to take control of my "situation" and am meeting a new counselor who specializes in PTSD, Childhood Trauma - and am also hoping to joing a weekly group.
Something's gotta give or my kid's never gonna forgive my being anal all the time, my family's never gonna see me truly smile out of true emotion, or my husband's gonna find someone who will give him a full hug.
So I hope that this is going to work. I would like to "reparticipate" on this board and really get this figured out for my sanity (Hah!) as well.
Anthony, you had answered to a post to where I was commenting on my mother and put a lot of time into your response. I really appreciate it and will find it and answer it to the fullest.
Take care all