Up until now, I've posted solely on the sufferer side of the forum, as I suffer with PTSD.
My Dad has had trauma in his life for a pretty long time, so have I. We've been through a lot of trauma together.
We witnessed my Moms death when I was 11 & he subsequently got into abusive relationships, one which was particularly bad. I went to bed many times as a teen fearing for my own life.
My Mom was ill all of my life, she had many major operations & nearly died several times.
His T diagnosed him with PTSD about 5 years ago. He doesn't see a T now & hasn't for some time. I don't think he believes he suffers with PTSD. He believes a hernia operation he had has poisoned his body.
After my Moms death, we became more like 'friends' & he has come to me for advice on his relationships, dating & pretty much all areas of life after my Mom died. He is in a bad relationship now & wants to talk about it. The problem is it really triggers me & renders me pretty useless to do anything.
I want him to get better, but I don't think I'm the appropriate person to lean on for advice. I certainly wasn't as a child. He refuses to go back to T & stays in a relationship that is toxic & has bordered on abusive at times.
Does anyone have any advice on coping with this from a supporters perspective?
My Dad has had trauma in his life for a pretty long time, so have I. We've been through a lot of trauma together.
We witnessed my Moms death when I was 11 & he subsequently got into abusive relationships, one which was particularly bad. I went to bed many times as a teen fearing for my own life.
My Mom was ill all of my life, she had many major operations & nearly died several times.
His T diagnosed him with PTSD about 5 years ago. He doesn't see a T now & hasn't for some time. I don't think he believes he suffers with PTSD. He believes a hernia operation he had has poisoned his body.
After my Moms death, we became more like 'friends' & he has come to me for advice on his relationships, dating & pretty much all areas of life after my Mom died. He is in a bad relationship now & wants to talk about it. The problem is it really triggers me & renders me pretty useless to do anything.
I want him to get better, but I don't think I'm the appropriate person to lean on for advice. I certainly wasn't as a child. He refuses to go back to T & stays in a relationship that is toxic & has bordered on abusive at times.
Does anyone have any advice on coping with this from a supporters perspective?