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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Sideways" data-source="post: 1705331" data-attributes="member: 32694">I didn't actually pop into this thread, except I'm reading a book by Matt Haig about depression and anxiety.  A comment I just read made me think of your thread title:"Actually, [mental illness] can be exacerbated by things being right externally, because the gulf between what you feel and what you are expected to feel becomes larger."I thought of your thread, and wondered if maybe something similar is happening for you?  That there are external (and possibly internal) signs of 'safety', and suddenly your brain is assuming that things should suddenly feel right.  Safe.But feeling 'safe', when you have ptsd, is something that our brains only gradually learn over time.  Suddenly being 'safe' doesn't cure ptsd, including all those miswired neurotransmitters that are routinely reminding us that we're unsafe.Actually being safe may help establish a feeling of safety. At least temporarily. But you still have ptsd, and with that comes the perpetual state of fight/flight - feeling unsafe irrespective of how 'safe' your surroundings are...?Maybe?  So, safety not being a trigger as such, but also, not being a permanent cure for that much more familiar feeling of being unsafe.</blockquote>