Has anyone gone on to have a normal/happy s*x life after r*pe and/or s*xual ab*se?
I went from being hypersexual in my 20's to the complete opposite now, in my 30's. I can honestly say if I never had s*x again, I'd be happy....but I know s*x in a relationship is important. The thing is, I'm seeing someone now and he's been staying over, he's a good guy....but I still don't want to. I feel my whole body tense up and I stay as still as possible, so I don't wake him up because I don't want him to try anything.....because even though I don't want to, I'd always go along with it because I'd feel bad for saying no. The same with if he were to do something that hurt me, although I know he'd probably stop, I wouldn't say anything about it and just let it carry on. I know this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship but it's all on me and I don't know how to fix it. I don't even know if I'd be comfortable speaking to my therapist about this.
People will probably tell me to talk to him too but I can't. I don't want him to know any of the crap.
I went from being hypersexual in my 20's to the complete opposite now, in my 30's. I can honestly say if I never had s*x again, I'd be happy....but I know s*x in a relationship is important. The thing is, I'm seeing someone now and he's been staying over, he's a good guy....but I still don't want to. I feel my whole body tense up and I stay as still as possible, so I don't wake him up because I don't want him to try anything.....because even though I don't want to, I'd always go along with it because I'd feel bad for saying no. The same with if he were to do something that hurt me, although I know he'd probably stop, I wouldn't say anything about it and just let it carry on. I know this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship but it's all on me and I don't know how to fix it. I don't even know if I'd be comfortable speaking to my therapist about this.
People will probably tell me to talk to him too but I can't. I don't want him to know any of the crap.