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My ex broke up with me primarily because she lost trust in me and she connected me to her trauma she unfortunately suffered the last year.
She said, "I connect you directly to the negativity of our last year and I can't disconnect you, I have tried."
For context, please check my post history for my first post.
She left me telling me she wanted to be friends, then 2 weeks later took that back (it hurt) and asked for no contact for her to heal. She since then COMPLETELY removed me from her life and even avoids thinking about me. I ran into her sister and she mentioned having a conversation with her the other day about me. My ex mentioned to her that since leaving me she hasn't even thought about me because its painful to think about. This hurt me because I miss her and of course think about her daily. She was diagnosed with PTSD/CPTSD this last year, and yet I feel in a way with how things ended she discarded me similar to painting an individual black with BPD. As well as the devaluation stage with her blaming me for everything despite my efforts for support.
How long can avoidance last? She connects me to her trauma despite my efforts for otherwise, is there anything I can do about that?
Please check my post history for context.
That is more context^
She said, "I connect you directly to the negativity of our last year and I can't disconnect you, I have tried."
For context, please check my post history for my first post.
She left me telling me she wanted to be friends, then 2 weeks later took that back (it hurt) and asked for no contact for her to heal. She since then COMPLETELY removed me from her life and even avoids thinking about me. I ran into her sister and she mentioned having a conversation with her the other day about me. My ex mentioned to her that since leaving me she hasn't even thought about me because its painful to think about. This hurt me because I miss her and of course think about her daily. She was diagnosed with PTSD/CPTSD this last year, and yet I feel in a way with how things ended she discarded me similar to painting an individual black with BPD. As well as the devaluation stage with her blaming me for everything despite my efforts for support.
How long can avoidance last? She connects me to her trauma despite my efforts for otherwise, is there anything I can do about that?
Please check my post history for context.
My ex broke up with me primarily because she lost trust in me and she connected me to her trauma she unfortunately suffered the last year.
She said, "I connect you directly to the negativity of our last year and I can't disconnect you, I have tried."
For context, please check my post history for my first post.
She left me telling me she wanted to be friends, then 2 weeks later took that back (it hurt) and asked for no contact for her to heal. She since then COMPLETELY removed me from her life and even avoids thinking about me. I ran into her sister and she mentioned having a conversation with her the other day about me. My ex mentioned to her that since leaving me she hasn't even thought about me because its painful to think about. This hurt me because I miss her and of course think about her daily. She was diagnosed with PTSD/CPTSD this last year, and yet I feel in a way with how things ended she discarded me similar to painting an individual black with BPD. As well as the devaluation stage with her blaming me for everything despite my efforts for support.
How long can avoidance last? She connects me to her trauma despite my efforts for otherwise, is there anything I can do about that?
Please check my post history for context.
Relationship - My ex with CPTSD blamed me for everything, and I am left feeling like I am nothing.
******LONG READ ****** So lets begin with the good. I am 27 (M) she is 28 (F). My ex and I were together for 6 years. I became very close with her family and siblings. Constantly going over to their houses for family events, dinners, and doing double dates with her siblings and their partners...
www.myptsd.com
That is more context^