Sick of Anxiety

Hello,
I am new to this site and I am hoping that reading of other people's struggles with anxiety and how they manage will help me. I've suffered from this damn disorder for way to long....way back in October of 1995. At that time my whole world was falling apart. I found out my husband had loaned money to our son when we had agreed we would stop doing that. My only daughter was pregnant, not married and decided she was going to move in with the baby daddy. I had a long discussion with my Mom about things I had kept inside all my life but it only made her turn everything around on me and blamed me for being to sensitive. She wouldn't even say she was sorry for making me feel I was not wanted and not as important as my brothers. On the day after coming home from work, I was a nurse then, I was sitting in rush hour traffic when all of a sudden, I felt like I couldn't breathe, felt nauseous, faint and wondered what was going on. All I could think about was trying to get home but passing out and causing an accident; hurting someone and myself. Just as the light changed, I remembered that not far from where I was at, there was a small hospital and I needed to get myself there. Thank God that I managed to get there and that is when I was told I had had a panic attack. The doctor wanted to give me an injection I suppose to calm me down and asked if I had someone who could come and drive me home. I didn't have anyone I could call so he wrote me a prescription for a weeks worth of xanax and I was to see my regular doctor. By the time I left the hospital it was dark and so I drove straight home. I never even mentioned what happened to me to my husband as I felt he wouldn't care. Unfortunately, that panic attack had affected me so bad and I related driving with that attack and soon, I wasn't able to drive to get myself to work and I had to quit......it was so hard as my nursing had meant so much to me. Well, now it is 2020 and we all know what a horrible year its been with COVID and being isolated and now, I am a widow having lost my husband over 2 yrs, ago due to his bad heart. I wake up early every morning at 4 am. I can't get back to sleep even if I try as I start thinking about how lonely life has been and having to face another day alone. My two kids live far away and they seldom call home. My neighbors never talk to me and so I wonder why I am even here. Now my doctor won't refill my anxiety medication as he says he needs to see me. I have told the idiotic receptionist that at this time, I don't feel comfortable coming into the office with the increase in COVID causes here in Utah, didn't make any difference. Now I have been forced to stop taking my medication and of course the anxiety has gotten out of control. Stopping any medication cold turkey is dangerous but my doctor doesn't care so I have to find a new doctor but who? Does anyone have any ideas as to a natural remedy to help with anxiety and something you've tried that has helped you? Thanks everyone.
 

Sadielady3

Confident
Welcome, although I wish you weren't looking for a place like this to share and get support. I have some pretty gnarly anxiety myself but only recently starting taking meds (Gabapentin) for it. Most therapists I've seen in the past have tried to get me to meditate but I can't just sit with my thoughts- it makes me worse. One thing that helps me is to do visualization techniques like having a mental safe space. It took me awhile to really create one and it only works when I'm at a low threat level but it can help me from spiraling (I'm really good at spinning out of control with my anxiety).

Another thing that helps me is mindfulness but I can't do it the way that therapists always describe it. I need to be really mentally engaged in something more complex. One thing that I found is this brilliant Sudoku channel called Cracking the Cryptic. There are two guys on this channel that solve really strange Sudoku puzzles that have complex rules to them. The one guy, Simon, has a very soothing voice to listen to as well. There is a link with each video to give the viewer a chance to do the puzzles themselves. That level of mental engagement really helps to give me a break from the worrying and sometimes is enough to help me get back on track with my day.

I haven't tried any natural homeopathic remedies myself so on that front, I can't help at all. My anxiety is bad enough to be considered a panic disorder but it never occurred to me to try anything natural, despite not taking meds.

I hope you can find a good solution that helps you feel as well as possible.
 

Skywatcher

MyPTSD Pro
Anxiety is terrible. Depression too. I’m sorry that you feel alone in this. The following things have helped me. You could try:

Magnesium glicinate (500mg)
Dramamine (the drowsy kind)
Benedryl
Find something with gaba in it. (Olly “stress”)
CBD oil

I would get to a doctor ASAP. Even if you have to go in. Put on a mask and go. I’m surprised they don’t offer online appointments. You can also contact a tele-doc and see if they can offer you blood pressure lowering medicine or refills of what you used to take. Online therapy would also be a good idea.
 

Kittie

Confident
Hello,
I am new to this site and I am hoping that reading of other people's struggles with anxiety and how they manage will help me. I've suffered from this damn disorder for way to long....way back in October of 1995. At that time my whole world was falling apart. I found out my husband had loaned money to our son when we had agreed we would stop doing that. My only daughter was pregnant, not married and decided she was going to move in with the baby daddy. I had a long discussion with my Mom about things I had kept inside all my life but it only made her turn everything around on me and blamed me for being to sensitive. She wouldn't even say she was sorry for making me feel I was not wanted and not as important as my brothers. On the day after coming home from work, I was a nurse then, I was sitting in rush hour traffic when all of a sudden, I felt like I couldn't breathe, felt nauseous, faint and wondered what was going on. All I could think about was trying to get home but passing out and causing an accident; hurting someone and myself. Just as the light changed, I remembered that not far from where I was at, there was a small hospital and I needed to get myself there. Thank God that I managed to get there and that is when I was told I had had a panic attack. The doctor wanted to give me an injection I suppose to calm me down and asked if I had someone who could come and drive me home. I didn't have anyone I could call so he wrote me a prescription for a weeks worth of xanax and I was to see my regular doctor. By the time I left the hospital it was dark and so I drove straight home. I never even mentioned what happened to me to my husband as I felt he wouldn't care. Unfortunately, that panic attack had affected me so bad and I related driving with that attack and soon, I wasn't able to drive to get myself to work and I had to quit......it was so hard as my nursing had meant so much to me. Well, now it is 2020 and we all know what a horrible year its been with COVID and being isolated and now, I am a widow having lost my husband over 2 yrs, ago due to his bad heart. I wake up early every morning at 4 am. I can't get back to sleep even if I try as I start thinking about how lonely life has been and having to face another day alone. My two kids live far away and they seldom call home. My neighbors never talk to me and so I wonder why I am even here. Now my doctor won't refill my anxiety medication as he says he needs to see me. I have told the idiotic receptionist that at this time, I don't feel comfortable coming into the office with the increase in COVID causes here in Utah, didn't make any difference. Now I have been forced to stop taking my medication and of course the anxiety has gotten out of control. Stopping any medication cold turkey is dangerous but my doctor doesn't care so I have to find a new doctor but who? Does anyone have any ideas as to a natural remedy to help with anxiety and something you've tried that has helped you? Thanks everyone.
I can relate! I canceled my eye appointment in Salt Lake because the traffic overwhelms me and I fear covid. I've had anxiety off the chart for decade and I'm alone. What I do to help myself is a little housekeeping (easy stuff), with music or old-time radio mystery theater shows playing in the background. I may not hear half of the background noise but it fills the sound of silence, which I find calming. I try to keep myself busy and find being busy helps most of all. If I feel too lousy to be busy, I type myself a message and tell myself what's bothering me, then I delete it. Wishing you the best!
 

Survivor3

MyPTSD Pro
Hi @Mustangsally91 I'm sorry that you are suffering. Natural remedies may help but I haven't used them myself so can't offer a solution. I take mirtazapine (anti depressant) and olanzapine (mood stabilizer - anti psychotic). Getting around in covid can be difficult but id recommend seeking help from a docter if your really suffering. Best of luck to you. S3 😊
 
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