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Well I don't really know where to begin. Both my now grown kids were taken into foster care at a very young age and basically the social workers brainwashed and alienated them both against me and my ex partner and got them both hating and blaming us for what other people did to abuse them, for their ex in the so called care system, how their lives turned out as a result of going through care and the many psychological issues they both have as a result of going through care. Neither of my grown kids remain in contact with me or my ex and as it stands I don't have much hope of that changing any time soon. It absolutely traumatised me losing my kids like that and I have never got over it and I don't think I ever will. If I had the money I would sue social services for ruining my lives my kids lives and all the relationships between us. But that would never bring my kids back or compensate for all the missed milestones or memories we could have would have should have had if not for social services and their incompetence negligence and downright dishonesty and all the times THEY broke the law regarding my kids. I'm still so sad and angry about all this more for my kids than myself. And I have no redress no means of righting the wrongs no way of balancing the scales of justice. I am literally impotent with rage at what social services have done and the fact they are going to get away with their mistakes but parents like me don't. I'm paying the price, serving the sentence for not only my own mistakes regarding my kids but social services mistakes too. I wish I had the money to take them to task in court but being disabled with C-PTSD and relying on sickness benefits to get by I'm screwed. I can't get legal aid you see to me launch action against them only if I defend myself. And I can't talk about it in the media or the press or I would find myself in contempt of court and could get jailed for it. There's a bloody good reason the family courts are closed in the UK. The social services say it's to protect the anonymity of the kids but that's total bollocks. It's really done to cover up the social workers f*ck ups and to save their own sorry arses and sod the poor kids and birth parents. It's an absolute bloody disgrace and really shouldn't be happening in the 21st century for God's sake.
Can anyone relate? Has anyone else on the here been through similar? This all happened for me and my family starting 20 years ago and I would like to think or hope things have improved for kids and parents in that time but I know it hasn't. The system is antiquated and out dated not to mention over stretched under staffed lacks resources and money and everyone involved suffers one way or another. I know they serve a purpose especially for kids who really are in danger and at the risk of significant harm but all too often they act in arbitrary and draconian ways that does more harm to the kids once they are in the system than if they had been left with their families with support respite and a few extra quid in the first place. There's apparently plenty of money for cure but none for prevention. It's totally arse about face and it makes no serious how the social services go about things.
Comments support and constructive feedback and positive suggestions welcome.
Cheers
Crazydiamond47
Can anyone relate? Has anyone else on the here been through similar? This all happened for me and my family starting 20 years ago and I would like to think or hope things have improved for kids and parents in that time but I know it hasn't. The system is antiquated and out dated not to mention over stretched under staffed lacks resources and money and everyone involved suffers one way or another. I know they serve a purpose especially for kids who really are in danger and at the risk of significant harm but all too often they act in arbitrary and draconian ways that does more harm to the kids once they are in the system than if they had been left with their families with support respite and a few extra quid in the first place. There's apparently plenty of money for cure but none for prevention. It's totally arse about face and it makes no serious how the social services go about things.
Comments support and constructive feedback and positive suggestions welcome.
Cheers
Crazydiamond47