Thank you for sharing! I'm young enough that I could still have a family of my own and I'd like to think that if I chose a good partner I could avoid the pitfalls of my parents. But before any of that is a possibility I need to work on aspects of myself and my life to ensure a strong starting point. Thank you for showing the positive sideI was definitely afraid of parenting in the style my parents did.
I made it my mission with my children to think through what were the issues and worked hard to avoid them.
But I reckon I still made lots of mistakes and I know that to the most part my children understand that I didn't do anything deliberately, nothing that communication could not resolve and a lot of forgiveness too. So despite my mistakes we all live on and with them.
I suppose my children are thinking the exact same thing now and to a certain degree I hope they are because I don't want them to make the same mistakes I made and I want them to do things the way they want to do it.
I understand what you mean I think @BentNotBroken - but I didn't engage in the level of avoidance that you did. I did however make lots of decisions about how many children I would have and what I would and wouldn't put up with in respect to partners. So I took a very different journey from my parents.