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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Movingforward10" data-source="post: 1750201" data-attributes="member: 49737">I'm sorry [USER=14251]@piratelady[/USER] . That sounds hugely traumatic. I recently had a smear where I didn't know what she was going to do and she did some odd things to me. For me it was the 'not knowing' what was going to happen, and being totally out of control about my body, specifically that area. And also it hurt me too. And then also it triggered some other stuff. Maybe it was the not knowing? Not being in control? The pain? All things that might represent too much of trauma?If you decide you do want to go through this procedure again, can you set some ground rules? Like getting them to tell you what is going to happen, and talking you through the whole thing again when they are doing it, and agreeing that if you say stop they will immediately, and then decide with you if that is a temporary stop (i.e. a break), or a total stop (i.e. you get dressed and go home)?This is where medical professionals just don't think about the impact. I really don't get why they don't. It should be automatic that they check in and say what they are doing, particularly with an invasive and private procedure with the one you went through.</blockquote>