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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Skywatcher" data-source="post: 1756376" data-attributes="member: 46955">I get the “erotically charged” comment.  Even working on csa and rape can cause it.  I researched this extensively because I found it so disgusting and shameful and read that it’s a normal body reaction.I occasionally bring up sex with my T.  She uses professional terminology and it creates a medical feeling to our discussion.  She also once told me a story about when she was in her masters program; the professor (who was a nun) made them write out their entire sexual history.  Then they were required to discuss this with the class.  She was horrified and very angry about this requirement.  I could see her vulnerability and uncomfortable feelings when relaying this memory.  Of course, my mind was more fixated on wondering what made it uncomfortable for her.  Was it because she had only been with her husband or at that time was still a virgin (pre-marriage)?  Was it because she had some sort of hippie free love kind of past?  Did she have a deep privacy about her covenant marriage that she feels should only be shared between herself and her husband?  I still don’t know.  All I truly know is that she knows how uncomfortable it feels to discuss your sexlife with another person.  Fear of judgement.  Shame.</blockquote>