Like @Freddyt I would probably start with the kind one. I doubt she’ll be in a position to say ‘ok, you can have me!’ (Unfortunately!) But she may be able to help you navigate the system there - and hopefully get some kind of change for you (ideally a different support worker)
It’s a curious thing, amirite?
Teasel: Will you think of me. My husband was in the ER for a sore throat. He has myasthenia Gravis. All the muscles in his body break down. The infection made it impossible to swallow, even water, and he could not talk. His lungs failed and he is on life support at U of A. I am doing well but we both broke down and cried with each other. They woke him up for half the day So he could write me a little. I am grateful for all I have been through, like you, 40 years ago. And grateful for the restoration of having a healthy enduring relationship where we think more of each other than of ourselves. That is 34 years ago. But it took going through a violent short marriage and realizing I do not know how to choose a healthy man. It took a lot of hard work. I relate to your emotions. But I finally met a man where the lights did not go off across a crowded room. But I used my head and saw what a kind honorable person is. A person who is still the nicest person I ever met. The romance certainly came but it was not the criteria for healthy relationship. Though our orientation may be different ,regardless, learning skills at discerning people and choosing healthy people takes work. But all the tools are available to anyone. Please think of me and the strength I need to face one day at a time. You please do the same. Life is the journey. Don’t look too quickly for the end.
Sitting with you @Teasel. you don’t need to say more than you have. Reaching out is good. We’re here.
