The most uncomfortable thing

arfie

MyPTSD Pro
yup. i subscribe to the notion that success is getting what you want. happiness is wanting what you get. when this feeling whelms me, i work on fine tuning what i have into something i actually want.

and then we get to the fact that my success hasn't protected me from a lousy childhood and other grief-worthy hardships and losses.
processing in progress. . .
 

Weemie

MyPTSD Pro
has anyone ever felt like they have everything? They should be grateful? But still not happy?
I think the fact that you're sad makes it very clear you don't have everything. 'Cuz if you did? You'd be happy! I spent a long time in my life admiring people who could face adversity and come out of it the other side positive and upbeat, and at peace. I envied that because I've faced adversity and yet I was stuck in it. I thought about it every moment of the day, I was wracked with remorse and shame and guilt.

And I have a roof over my head, I have family who love me even if it isn't perfect, I even have a friend group now. I have free internet! We're poor but we manage. A lot of people don't have the things I have but yet I wasn't happy. I wasn't at peace, I was stuck in the past. So I didn't quite have everything. I think when you really have what matters to you, and you can feel it and recognize it, that's where it counts.

It took lots of drugs and lots of therapy and lots of internal work for me to get to a place where sometimes? Sometimes I feel at peace. Sometimes I even feel compassion for myself. Sometimes I can even help others. That's what matters. So now? I'm happier. It's OK to be sad. It's OK for things not to be where you want them to be. Just don't use what you should be like as a tool to hurt yourself.
 

The_One

Learning
I think the fact that you're sad makes it very clear you don't have everything. 'Cuz if you did? You'd be happy! I spent a long time in my life admiring people who could face adversity and come out of it the other side positive and upbeat, and at peace. I envied that because I've faced adversity and yet I was stuck in it. I thought about it every moment of the day, I was wracked with remorse and shame and guilt.

And I have a roof over my head, I have family who love me even if it isn't perfect, I even have a friend group now. I have free internet! We're poor but we manage. A lot of people don't have the things I have but yet I wasn't happy. I wasn't at peace, I was stuck in the past. So I didn't quite have everything. I think when you really have what matters to you, and you can feel it and recognize it, that's where it counts.

It took lots of drugs and lots of therapy and lots of internal work for me to get to a place where sometimes? Sometimes I feel at peace. Sometimes I even feel compassion for myself. Sometimes I can even help others. That's what matters. So now? I'm happier. It's OK to be sad. It's OK for things not to be where you want them to be. Just don't use what you should be like as a tool to hurt yourself.
UMMM what your post is everything I needed to see and hear.
And your right I shouldn’t use what I should be like as a tool to hurt myself.

I just have a really negative mindset, I always have. And dare I say it I’ve never had a positive mindset modeled for me. So it’s foreign for me to try to be positive and have affirmations, believe in god, have faith.
Life isn’t perfect all our stories are different . I don’t know why I expect my life to be perfect and easy. No one’s life is easy.
 
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