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This spoke to me

Discussion in 'Sexual Assault' started by Mee, Apr 26, 2018.

  1. Mee

    Mee Well-Known Member

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    this was sent to me today and speaks very well on the ‘not a perfect victim’ and the views of that and I thought any others with guilt over that ‘didn’t do the correct things’ as a victim might be interested to read this.

    I think the more stuff there is combatting what a victim looks or behaves like the more it helps.

    https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a19158567/what-is-rape/
     
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  3. Sietz

    Sietz Well-Known Member

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    Great article, @Mee
    Thanks for sharing
     
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    The part about sex often being the least harmful option, like harm reduction in a way, really hit home. The whole thing did, really. Thank you for sharing.
     
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  5. Swift

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    There's no such thing as a perfect victim.
    There's no wrong or right way to act.
    We tell ourselves how badass we'd be in the moment, but until it happens, we can never really know.
    Survival is badass. If making your rapist breakfast saves you pain or saves your life, so be it.
     
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  6. brat17

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    Great article...Thanks for sharing. It really does hit home.
    I have spent most of my life denying being a victim of sexual assault. Since there was no such thing as marital rape until 1984 in the US, that didn't count either. In youth, some I have never differentiated as they seem like harassment.

    Again, thanks for sharing this!
     
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  7. User88

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    Thanks for sharing. I think the “perfect victim” mould often stops victims from speaking out, for fear of being judged/not believed. So many people are so quick to judge how a victim “should” react and behave.
     
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