Transitioning and Coping with Gender Dysphoria: Needing Support

[_-yeah_nah-_]

She told me, she hopes I kill myself =(

So bit to catch up on,
things have gone south again with the wife.
We did have an arrangement that I would see him every 2nd day. But on day one of arrangement yesterday, arrangement is over as she can't deal in seeing me.
And I'm back to no access, soo messed up + he's also gone through one of those development leaps, I'm missing soo much.

It's getting quite nasty with wife, she told me, she hopes I kill myself so she doesn't have to deal with me, or me being in my bubs life. I told her noway shes not getting out that easy, see Bubba is my one reason not to end it. And I'm gonna be with him 100% of the time

She's gonna luv that

 

[littleoc]

Do you have a divorce lawyer yet? If not, I'd recommend one to hell with some kind of custody agreement

 

[No More]

I would second getting a divorce lawyer.

I think on some level you will need to accept if your wife is a fit parent & wants shared custody - they are likely to grant that. Hopefully though they will ensure she sticks to the agreement & you get your time.

I’m sorry she’s not accepting of your transition. Hopefully with time she will understand a little bit more, and the shock will wear off. It’s a really massive thing for her, but that’s not a reason for her to be personally insulting to you.

 

[_-yeah_nah-_]

OMG I'm coming out to my inner circle today wish me luck

 

[Movingforward10]

Good luck!,!

 

[_-yeah_nah-_]

So I came out to the inner circle today, I think it went well, all very supportive =)

Do you have a divorce lawyer yet? If not, I'd recommend one to hell with some kind of custody agreement

No not yet, I'm hoping I don't need one just yet

I'm meant to see them tomorrow, hopefully we can revisit the agreement.

 

[Muttly]

I would definitely look into trans support groups. When I transitioned (ftm) it helped me a lot. I am glad your inner circle has been supportive. It's hard and some people never get it, but it's a relief to be your true self. Hang in there.

 

[_-yeah_nah-_]

OMG I'm coming out to my inner circle today wish me luck

So I told the inner circle, I think it went well all very supportive
I've been best mates with these peeps since yr 5.

 

[_-yeah_nah-_]

The ultimatum,
transition, or stay married. =(
pretty much sums up wife's position on the matter.

 

[littleoc]

Absolutely choose yourself. You deserve to be happy, and you'll never be happy with someone who acts like that and judges you for every feminine action.

Even if she does lighten up, I'd still approach with caution after this.

 

[_-yeah_nah-_]

Absolutely choose yourself. You deserve to be happy, and you'll never be happy with someone who acts like that and judges you for every feminine action.

Even if she does lighten up, I'd still approach with caution after this.

I agree she did scare me a bit this period.
I am alert.

 

[Movingforward10]

I'm sorry that is her position. Maybe with more time she will soften. Maybe it isbthebend of the relationship but there can still be a healthy relationship. Maybe she needs time.

And you can't live a lie to make someone else happy, as both of you will know it is a lie and It will likely tear you apart anyways.