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Childhood Trauma and PTSD Birth Plan

Roland

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I’m working on a birth plan that will specifically inform my midwife team on my triggers and what to do or not to if I get triggered. Is there anything else I should add?

So far this is what I have:

Trauma and PTSD Birth Plan

Background
:
Childhood sexual abuse survivor, with PTSD, anxiety, and disassociative episodes. In worst case scenarios, could experience a flashback, panic attack, sensory overload, or dissociative episode.

Signs I am triggered:
-Hiding or covering my face or head
-Going nonverbal
-Hyperventilating
-Crying

I usually internalize my fear, and I can be really good at masking symptoms and seeming very normal.

Things that make me feel safe:
-Being in the dark, or at least dim lights
-Touch from my husband or Mom
-Fuzzy purple blanket

Things that could trigger me:
-Other people (besides David) in the bathroom with me

I would prefer no one in the bathroom with me besides my husband but if there needs to be for some reason, I would like the person to ask before coming in and verbally narrate what they are doing.

Things that overwhelm me when triggered:
-Open ended questions that require a verbal response

Things that help when I’m triggered:
-Yes or no questions
-Others verbally narrating what they are doing or observing regarding me ie: “I’m going to do x”, or “You look like you’re very uncomfortable”

Code Words:
Yellow - I’m nervous, not sure if I can calm down, or if I’m about to completely freak out, but we should probably change something to make me feel safe (I’m starting to get triggered).

Red - I’m full on panicking, having a flashback, or disassociating. Don’t touch, physically step back (I’m freaking out).

Hospital specific:
I would prefer all female staff, with as few people as possible. I would like someone else to request this for me, defending that this preference is due to trauma and ptsd and not meant to be any disrespect to male staff. I understand that in an emergency situation, I may not be able to have this preference fulfilled.

If I have to have male staff, I would like them to ask before touching me and verbally narrate what they are doing.
 
very detailed, roland. here's to hoping your childbirth goes as planned and the midwife team is properly sensitized.

personally, i like the K.I.S.S plan. keep it simple sweetie. simplicity is much harder to break than complicated expertise.

just believing. . .
to each her/his own. the heart goes where it goes.
 
Can I offer one caution for you to mentally prepare yourself for....this will certainly not happen, but if it does people like us need to prepare our headspace. Sometimes things just don't go as planned. In an emergency situation the best plans and hopes are discarded. Just prepare yourself mentally. I stopped breathing. I needed oxygen. Other issues happened...not important what. Just know that those caring for you and that precious baby will do whatever is necessary to assure that you and Baby make it through healthy and ready to begin your adventure together. I am so happy for you. It will be be worth it!💜
 
Can I offer one caution for you to mentally prepare yourself for....this will certainly not happen, but if it does people like us need to prepare our headspace. Sometimes things just don't go as planned. In an emergency situation the best plans and hopes are discarded. Just prepare yourself mentally. I stopped breathing. I needed oxygen. Other issues happened...not important what. Just know that those caring for you and that precious baby will do whatever is necessary to assure that you and Baby make it through healthy and ready to begin your adventure together. I am so happy for you. It will be be worth it!💜
Thank youuu, I know, plans help but they totally get thrown out the window when things change (and a lot can change in birth)
 
very detailed, roland. here's to hoping your childbirth goes as planned and the midwife team is properly sensitized.

personally, i like the K.I.S.S plan. keep it simple sweetie. simplicity is much harder to break than complicated expertise.

just believing. . .
to each her/his own. the heart goes where it goes.
Thank you!
 
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