It's completely absurd that this is a trigger, and I have to get over it and act.
My elderly mother has fallen for the competition scams and clearly got herself on a suckers list, so she is getting lots of letters that promise "you have won £x thousand and and just have to..." I have told her in every way I can that they are fake, but she keeps sending them back. I tell her that if they want to send her a prize , they could do it straight away, they have her address. I tell her that if she looks at the small print she will see that the most she can get is a pen. She has vowed that she isn't ordering anything, whatever they say.
Usually, she sulks, and says that when the money comes she won't be sharing it with me.
Today I intercepted a letter she asked my son-in-law to post, and it was one where she had ordered health pills to qualify for the prize.
I know that the trigger is her insisting that black is white. For me, it goes straight to "Of course he didn't hurt you" and "It only happened because of you" As a child I was never able to trust reality, because she told me it was untrue. I want to scream and shout, but instead I have to find a way to protect her, despite her failure to protect me in the past.
How do I get over myself, and what should I do to convince her?
My elderly mother has fallen for the competition scams and clearly got herself on a suckers list, so she is getting lots of letters that promise "you have won £x thousand and and just have to..." I have told her in every way I can that they are fake, but she keeps sending them back. I tell her that if they want to send her a prize , they could do it straight away, they have her address. I tell her that if she looks at the small print she will see that the most she can get is a pen. She has vowed that she isn't ordering anything, whatever they say.
Usually, she sulks, and says that when the money comes she won't be sharing it with me.
Today I intercepted a letter she asked my son-in-law to post, and it was one where she had ordered health pills to qualify for the prize.
I know that the trigger is her insisting that black is white. For me, it goes straight to "Of course he didn't hurt you" and "It only happened because of you" As a child I was never able to trust reality, because she told me it was untrue. I want to scream and shout, but instead I have to find a way to protect her, despite her failure to protect me in the past.
How do I get over myself, and what should I do to convince her?