My partner is my biggest trigger, which isn’t unusual. He’s who I spend most of my time with and who I have sex with. Triggers aren’t entirely avoidable and I know they’re not all his fault. It’s when they are his fault that I really struggle, though. I was sexually assaulted when I was a teenager. It happened multiple times at the hands of multiple people. They were all older than me, most of them much older. My boyfriend has a thing for inter-generational porn (think old men having sex with teenagers). This is really triggering for me. Even just watching regular television together can be difficult, because teenagers are so often sexualized on tv, and I’m sitting they’re upset by it while he’s turned on by it. I’ve asked him to stop consuming this type of porn, but he hasn’t. He says it’s not fair for me to take something away from him that is positive for him, just because it was negative for me. I don’t think I’m asking too much here. But I’m so used to hearing that I am, that I’m questioning it.