OK - IMO - I have quite a bit of fears:
escalators (go ahead and laugh - smile)
*These things I can slowly adjust to and try to deal with.
Triggers are completely different in my mind. First the body response and emotional feelings are nothing like a fear. In fact, I can't even figure out how to explain - it's like the worse kind of adrelinal (sp?) rush you could ever imagine - but nothing about it feels good. I literally will forget to breathe - it's far beyond the pounding heart etc. that comes from fears. In fact, often I will "leave my body" in a sense or "go inside myself" if triggered.
With my triggers - upon reflection, I can associate them with my trauma, where as my fear of heights has nothing to do with my trauma. (Does that make sense?)
Having said that - I don't believe we should avoid triggers. Now, if you are not feeling "safe" - then yes steer clear, but it would be impossible for me to live my life at all without ever being triggered. However, I would not intentially put myself in an unsafe situation to force a trigger.
I may go into a store and see a man that reminds me of my abuser. (The man in the store has not done anything to me or said anything to me - therefore, for the most part I am "safe"). Depending on how I feel, I may stay in the store (instead of running out), or if I were feeling very strong - I might even say a quick polite hello.
But, I wouldn't walk into a bar - full of men that look like my abuser, are drinking like my abuser, and more than likely have the potential to act like my abuser - because then I would be putting myself in an unsafe place.
I feel like I'm rambling - LOL. I hope I answered your question, if not - let me know and I'll try again (my brain is a bit "jumbled" today).