amethist
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Yesterday hubby had a major crisis, so bad that he thought of ending things and I had to come home to help him through it.
This being a particular bad episode, because of the suicidal thoughts, I decided to try and get some help as I had been advised to do if it ever got to this stage and the help would be there.
The first time he needed help was back in December 2007, before ptsd was diagnosed and he had just started to drink more than he should. I came home to find him crying like a baby telling me he wanted to end his life. So I called the emergency doctor, as it was Sunday. They could not get out to see him and told me to take him there, not a cat in hells chance of doing that. Ok they would come out eventually, but told me if he gets violent call the police. WTF he was rock bottom and not an ounce of violence in him, he was curled up sobbing his heart out.
Second major incident was along time after that, but again went down the NHS route, guess what it was an answer phone. So a few phone calls later I was put through to local hospital crisis team, sorry can't help you need to go through NHS direct, er it's answer phone and has been for over an hour. sorry but that is what you need to do. I ended up with help from a friend on a web cam in US for 4 1/2 hours to help him through that one.
Third time lucky, not a chance. He felt so bad in his head last year, he asked me to get him admitted so he could have intense help and treatment. After numerous phone calls again,
the crisis team finally agreed to come out and see him. It was 2.30 in the afternoon, but they would not be out until after 11pm that night, so I got them to agree to see him if I could get him there. So they saw him and arranged day care, which was cut short because of cut back. The best bit was, they said he was very calm considering he was in busy A&E unit. OF COURSE HE WAS, BECAUSE I WAS KEEPING HIM CALM. Needless to say no real help then either.
Then yesterday, numerous phone calls yet again and being put through to his community support worker who has already told me she does not know very much about ptsd. I thought they were putting me through to the office for the crisis support, yea right.
He was upset there was no help, I was furious about it all, and then to cap it all off his support phoned this morning and asked "Why is he sleeping at this time of day". DER because he is exausted and his brain needs to calm down and rest, so he can pick himself up and carry on.
Ok so for the fourth time of going down the NHS route, maybe I should not bother next time. These were the main major issues, there have been many many times when he has needed info or just simple stuff, but still no joy with all those times either.
This does not include the fact that when he was in detox for the drink in April 2008, they were the first to mention ptsd but nevr told anyone else and i only found that out a few weeks ago.
Any other's have issues like this, or is it just bad luck on his part.
Amethist
This being a particular bad episode, because of the suicidal thoughts, I decided to try and get some help as I had been advised to do if it ever got to this stage and the help would be there.
The first time he needed help was back in December 2007, before ptsd was diagnosed and he had just started to drink more than he should. I came home to find him crying like a baby telling me he wanted to end his life. So I called the emergency doctor, as it was Sunday. They could not get out to see him and told me to take him there, not a cat in hells chance of doing that. Ok they would come out eventually, but told me if he gets violent call the police. WTF he was rock bottom and not an ounce of violence in him, he was curled up sobbing his heart out.
Second major incident was along time after that, but again went down the NHS route, guess what it was an answer phone. So a few phone calls later I was put through to local hospital crisis team, sorry can't help you need to go through NHS direct, er it's answer phone and has been for over an hour. sorry but that is what you need to do. I ended up with help from a friend on a web cam in US for 4 1/2 hours to help him through that one.
Third time lucky, not a chance. He felt so bad in his head last year, he asked me to get him admitted so he could have intense help and treatment. After numerous phone calls again,
the crisis team finally agreed to come out and see him. It was 2.30 in the afternoon, but they would not be out until after 11pm that night, so I got them to agree to see him if I could get him there. So they saw him and arranged day care, which was cut short because of cut back. The best bit was, they said he was very calm considering he was in busy A&E unit. OF COURSE HE WAS, BECAUSE I WAS KEEPING HIM CALM. Needless to say no real help then either.
Then yesterday, numerous phone calls yet again and being put through to his community support worker who has already told me she does not know very much about ptsd. I thought they were putting me through to the office for the crisis support, yea right.
He was upset there was no help, I was furious about it all, and then to cap it all off his support phoned this morning and asked "Why is he sleeping at this time of day". DER because he is exausted and his brain needs to calm down and rest, so he can pick himself up and carry on.
Ok so for the fourth time of going down the NHS route, maybe I should not bother next time. These were the main major issues, there have been many many times when he has needed info or just simple stuff, but still no joy with all those times either.
This does not include the fact that when he was in detox for the drink in April 2008, they were the first to mention ptsd but nevr told anyone else and i only found that out a few weeks ago.
Any other's have issues like this, or is it just bad luck on his part.
Amethist