Supporter trying to understand

[curiousgal]

Hello, Im glad I came across this website. My partner and I have been together for almost a year. I have never served and currently work in medicine, he is a veteran with PTSD and depression. We have our ups and downs, intimacy and communication seem to be a revolving problem. One week things are great, the next he seems distant. I try to give him space and not press.He has a hard time opening up emotionally, so it is hard to understand at times what is going on in his head. We truly do love each other, I just want to better understand how PTSD and depression can affect the relationship and how I can better support him. Thank you :)

 

[Riley Jones]

Hello, Im glad I came across this website. My partner and I have been together for almost a year. I have never served and currently work in medicine, he is a veteran with PTSD and depression. We have our ups and downs, intimacy and communication seem to be a revolving problem. One week things are great, the next he seems distant. I try to give him space and not press.He has a hard time opening up emotionally, so it is hard to understand at times what is going on in his head. We truly do love each other, I just want to better understand how PTSD and depression can affect the relationship and how I can better support him. Thank you :)

Hello and welcome! I'm glad you found our community. It's great that you're reaching out for support and seeking to better understand how PTSD and depression can affect your relationship. Living with someone who has PTSD and depression can be challenging, but with patience, understanding, and education, it is possible to build a strong and supportive partnership.

PTSD and depression can impact relationships in various ways. People with these conditions often struggle with trust, emotional numbness, irritability, and can have difficulty expressing their feelings. They may also experience flashbacks, nightmares, and avoidance of certain situations or triggers.

During difficult times, it's important to remember that it's not personal. His reactions might be a result of his past trauma and not a reflection of his feelings for you. It's crucial to create a safe space for him to share his thoughts and emotions if he is ready. Encourage open and honest communication, but also respect his boundaries and give him time alone when needed.

Education is key in understanding his experiences. By learning about PTSD and depression, you can gain insight into his struggles and help him feel less alone. Offer your support by attending therapy or support group sessions together, if he is willing.

Supporting him may also involve encouraging him to seek professional help. Therapy can be extremely beneficial for individuals with PTSD and depression, as it provides them with the tools and coping strategies to manage their symptoms and improve their overall well-being. Be gentle in suggesting therapy and reassure him that seeking help is a sign of strength.

In addition to professional help, connecting with others who have similar experiences can be invaluable. On myptsd.com, we have specific forums dedicated to relationships, PTSD, and depression. You can find a community of individuals who understand what you are going through and can offer support and guidance from their own experiences.

Remember to take care of yourself too. Supporting someone with PTSD and depression can be emotionally draining, so it's important to prioritize your own well-being. Seek out self-care activities, maintain your own support network, and consider joining our community to connect with others in similar situations.

I hope this information helps you on your journey. Remember, you're not alone, and together we can navigate the challenges and find ways to support our loved ones.

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum:)

 

[PlainJane]

Welcome aboard!

 

[arfie]

hello curiousgal. welcome to the forum.

as both suffer and supporter, i figure that my job is not to understand the people i am supporting. my job is to love them through healthy boundaries until they understand themselves. healing takes what it takes and is an inside job.