Hi everyone!
Just a thought.... How many sufferers dread Feb 14th because they just feel numb? They feel 'something' for their partner, but is it love???? What IS love anyway??
Sufferers;
If you have to fake the feeling, just to make your partner feel good, does it leave you feeling even more numb than before,knowing you 'should' feel that way? And in turn, does that make you feel angry, because your partner 'expects' more than you can give?,'expects' more than you really feel?
Partners;
For a moment, think outside the square. If your spouse seems really angry and uptight on this 'special' day, try to think of ways to take the pressure off. We know we love them, the 'real' them. Isn't that what its supposed to all be about?? How about doing something nice for them, without expecting a reward?! Without expecting much of a response?
For more often than not, a loving gesture, a simple love note, and a sweet smile, given without the pressure to respond, can be taken away and absorbed later. And trust me, it will be remembered because it WAS given freely.
Ive written this in the hope that if even one sufferer is given the freedom to FEEL, without being pressured, it will lead to a more positive response in their interactions with their spouse.
And also in the hope sufferers will relax in the knowledge that their partner is fully aware of their numbness and who stands by their side anyway, and do something special to acknowledge them.
Everyone needs a soft place to fall, and some-one strong to catch them. It goes both ways!!
xxxxxxx
Just a thought.... How many sufferers dread Feb 14th because they just feel numb? They feel 'something' for their partner, but is it love???? What IS love anyway??
Sufferers;
If you have to fake the feeling, just to make your partner feel good, does it leave you feeling even more numb than before,knowing you 'should' feel that way? And in turn, does that make you feel angry, because your partner 'expects' more than you can give?,'expects' more than you really feel?
Partners;
For a moment, think outside the square. If your spouse seems really angry and uptight on this 'special' day, try to think of ways to take the pressure off. We know we love them, the 'real' them. Isn't that what its supposed to all be about?? How about doing something nice for them, without expecting a reward?! Without expecting much of a response?
For more often than not, a loving gesture, a simple love note, and a sweet smile, given without the pressure to respond, can be taken away and absorbed later. And trust me, it will be remembered because it WAS given freely.
Ive written this in the hope that if even one sufferer is given the freedom to FEEL, without being pressured, it will lead to a more positive response in their interactions with their spouse.
And also in the hope sufferers will relax in the knowledge that their partner is fully aware of their numbness and who stands by their side anyway, and do something special to acknowledge them.
Everyone needs a soft place to fall, and some-one strong to catch them. It goes both ways!!
xxxxxxx