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Want to move out but scared of living alone

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I want to go from this place to another country to pursue my higher studies. I've never been abroad and have never lived on my own in a different country. I'm still financially dependent on my abuser and have been living here since always and just want to move out. I'm scared that if I do leave then I'll have anxiety attacks, panic attacks, dying thought, disassociation and all once I'm in a new country. I need to move but my fear and all these questions have left me confused. Im on meds too that is Sertraline and ì dont know if the new country will have any problem with that or no. Will meds be even costlier there? I'm scared that disassociation will make it harder for me to focus on my studies after I've moved to a new country and will make me want to come back. What do I do?
 
Is moving to another country the only option to do higher studies and move out? Or can you do your studies, move out and remain in your country?

All three of those things are big changes. And likely to cause feelings of being unsettled. So what support will you have in place, within yourself and externally, to manage that?

Can you research the medical care in the other country and what you need, what costs will be etc?
 
I'm scared that disassociation will make it harder for me to focus on my studies after I've moved to a new country and will make me want to come back. What do I do?

are there foreign exchange student programs available to you? i have lived, travelled and studied on 3 continents, as well as hosting foreign exchange students and bands. your fears are fully justified but far from insurmountable. the skills attached to managing those challenges are worth learning and there are quite a few networks available to help with the lessons. my own first foreign exchange experience was the u.s. army and their lessons were top notch with solid career training as a bonus. let. the student networks i have worked with also have good study plans for the experience.

researching those options might be a good thing for you to do next. just a suggestion. . .

for what it's worth
that army experience gave me a quick out of my unhappy home with a paycheck and benefits that are still paying bennies.
i could have lived without the 299 roommates, but at least i had a future, 3 meals a day and a bed/footlocker of my own. i still have the footlocker.
 
I'm planning to move abroad to pursue my higher studies. I have never been outside of my country and have lived with my abuser (my biological father) and my biology mother. I'm currently 23 and still live with them due to being financially dependent. The thought of moving seems the only way to be in a safe place yet it's the unknown. This place isn't safe and is a daily trigger. But because this is the only place I've ever lived in, the thought of a new place and a new country seems extremely scary to me. It's right for me and is what I want but I'm scared too at the same time. I disassociate sometimes and when I think about being there in a new country where there would be no one but just me and I would be completely on my own scares me. I begin thinking what if disassociation happens often and I cant function there in a new country all by myself and blah blah thoughts in my mind.. can you please advise me how to not be scared of this and just move out next year? I'm finally getting a chance but the fear of it real. Not just about moving to a new country but being someone who disassociates sometimes and will make it harder and tougher to live there on my own.

Is moving to another country the only option to do higher studies and move out? Or can you do your studies, move out and remain in your country?

All three of those things are big changes. And likely to cause feelings of being unsettled. So what support will you have in place, within yourself and externally, to manage that?

Can you research the medical care in the other country and what you need, what costs will be etc?
It's not the only option. But it opens so many doors for me. I can move out and live alone in this same country but I definitely think a new country and the education there can open up more job opportunities for me. I'll be moving to canada which I know isn't cheap at all when it comes to medical care. Am I being rational right now? I know it's not necessary to be in a new country but I dont want to be here

are there foreign exchange student programs available to you? i have lived, travelled and studied on 3 continents, as well as hosting foreign exchange students and bands. your fears are fully justified but far from insurmountable. the skills attached to managing those challenges are worth learning and there are quite a few networks available to help with the lessons. my own first foreign exchange experience was the u.s. army and their lessons were top notch with solid career training as a bonus. let. the student networks i have worked with also have good study plans for the experience.

researching those options might be a good thing for you to do next. just a suggestion. . .

for what it's worth
that army experience gave me a quick out of my unhappy home with a paycheck and benefits that are still paying bennies.
i could have lived without the 299 roommates, but at least i had a future, 3 meals a day and a bed/footlocker of my own. i still have the footlocker.
No such programs. It's a masters degree of 2 years in canada.
 
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