I was so relieved to be there, to be able to tell someone objective what had been going on....I honestly thought I'd just blubber all the way through it...but in the end I was surprisingly calm and logical about it all. She was not surprised to see me again. I last saw her in Oct last year, a few months after W had gone off his meds and she said I seemed resigned to a life living with a withdrawn, angry, unloving man....for the sake of the kids and to keep the peace. She's probably right, except he upped the ante over Christmas (typical ptsd) and everything fell apart. Everything I told her about his behaviour she said was classic ptsd symptoms. She set my mind at rest that I had not contributed and that he was classically trying to control the areas in his life that he can, in order to try and reduce overall stress. To him that means emotionally abusing us and trying to control everything at home. He is away at the moment and will see her, alone, when he gets back. I hope she can make him see sense and to go back into his own counselling and back onto his medication. That he has a loving wife who looks after him and the kids in the best possible way that she can while also working full-time and with him away a lot. And 3 beautiful children who are growing into adults and who need to be lovingly mentored, not abusively controlled. X to all.