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Hi, I have been struggling over the last several years with not feeling safe anywhere I live... so I keep moving. I'm coming up on another move soon.
Right now I live in an apartment that is on the ground floor and I am constantly triggered and feel so vulnerable. So I need to move to higher ground.
It's all so exhausting and I get that a lot of it is internal/cognitive distortion. I live in a relatively safe neighborhood. I recognize that, yet I still feel unsafe. I am also anxious about moving again and potentially having similar or other issues. What if no where feels safe, ever??
I was looking at one apartment recently that was on the second floor of a two floor building. Access was through one exterior staircase. I feel that is just as vulnerable as being on the ground floor.
Sorry if this is all over the place. I am triggered at the moment because I came home and a light was turned on that I hadn't turned on. I've tried working through that by thinking of alternate explanations. I also had to check stuff to make sure my security camera hadn't gone offline. I still don't feel 100% convinced that someone didn't enter my apartment when I was not home, but I think it's unlikely. I don't see anything else amiss. I hate this so much.
What type of features do you look for in an apartment/house to feel comfortable and safe? Thank you for any help and I wish you a Happy New Year.
Right now I live in an apartment that is on the ground floor and I am constantly triggered and feel so vulnerable. So I need to move to higher ground.
It's all so exhausting and I get that a lot of it is internal/cognitive distortion. I live in a relatively safe neighborhood. I recognize that, yet I still feel unsafe. I am also anxious about moving again and potentially having similar or other issues. What if no where feels safe, ever??
I was looking at one apartment recently that was on the second floor of a two floor building. Access was through one exterior staircase. I feel that is just as vulnerable as being on the ground floor.
Sorry if this is all over the place. I am triggered at the moment because I came home and a light was turned on that I hadn't turned on. I've tried working through that by thinking of alternate explanations. I also had to check stuff to make sure my security camera hadn't gone offline. I still don't feel 100% convinced that someone didn't enter my apartment when I was not home, but I think it's unlikely. I don't see anything else amiss. I hate this so much.
What type of features do you look for in an apartment/house to feel comfortable and safe? Thank you for any help and I wish you a Happy New Year.